LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

                                                               LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

"How is your Girlfriend?" I asked my friend. 

"we no longer roll together" he replied, my utmost surprise. 

After the surprise sunk in, the first words that came to my mind which I made him realize, was that he could not manage fame and relationships.

"You are letting it get to your head right? You are feeling like a star? I will spank you now" I said jokingly.

Then he replied: "Bro it is not like that ooh, for the records, she broke up with me."

I had to ask again to be sure, which he confirmed. "she just started acting funny all of a sudden when she started rolling with a particular girl on campus (UNILAG)."

My response was: "Ooh, she is the 'my friend type', those we call the follow !follow!!. A lady who waits on her friends for advice."

In other words, she has no mind of her own. My first thought about this was that his girlfriend’s friend might have liked him or she wanted that type of relationship but could not have it, then decided to break the one that was prospering. I made him understand my point.

He sighed deeply and said: “She scatter the thing well well ooh”, I could not help but burst out in laughter. I laughed so much not because I wanted to make jest of him, but deep down I felt for him and the issue has gone past getting sad all over on.

I made a joke of the girl being an “OGBANJE”; referring to his Ex-girlfriend’s friend.

Those who delight in Nollywood understands the reasoning perfectly. They believe in witchcrafts from their village is responsible for every and any problem they face.

He screamed in response saying: “MY GUY, THE GIRL YELLOW LIKE OGBANJE TRULY OH”.

Apologies to the light skinned people, we don't have any intention of undermining your beauty or attach any spirituality to your complexion. You are beautiful and its true “In James Blunt Voice”.

Then, he went further: “GUY NA WAOH THE BABE DO ME STRONG THING, I JUST DO LIKE SEY E NO PAIN ME, BUT E PAIN ME DIE”. 

Speaking of Heartbreaks, you could easily tell that this dude loved her like there was no tomorrow. He went on to say a little: "if I tell you wetin happen ehn, you no go believe.". As an inquisitive guy, I probed on for more and he did oblige.  He said the girl offended him, but he was the one begging her in order to save the relationship because he felt he had lost something important to him. It's really disheartening when things like these happens, but it's part of life though.

I witnessed a scenario on his birthday, which we celebrated within our circle as friends. He was so time conscious, eager to run back to UNILAG in order to spend some time with her. She kept on calling him, flashing, texting..... but I do not want to bore you with the details.

My little advice was for him to try forgetting about her and move on. I had been in a similar situation as his, where I was miserable and had since moved on. Then, being the loving man that I was, I did everything I could before eventually accepting defeat. I told him to take her back if she came calling - if he truly loves her.

He threw it back majestically, saying: “I LOVE HER BUT LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH”.  My ears stood like that of a Hare ready to run a race. I decided to listen more which should be a Man’s good trait anyways. "Love is not enough my friend, there are other things which ENCAPSULATE into a solid relationship" he opined. He then went on and on about his definition, "Love is just like an 8 unit course out of a 6 course form in a particular semester you are supposed to take in order to scale through". Here is my friend sounding PHILOSOPHICAL, As if he knew I was going to write about it, He told me, write that down somewhere, PHEEL said so.

Being a learner in the matters of the heart, I asked him what the other units were. He thus listed them saying:

   1.  TRUST

   2.  COMPATIBILITY

   3.  UNDERSTANDING

   4.  INTIMACY

   5.  COMMUNICATION

Guess what, LOVE is the only independent factor. That is what makes it the greatest, but all other Factors are dependent variables. We might go on and on but it doesn't help the argument one bit. 

There might be subsequent series to treat this topic again.

N.B. Big ups to PHEEL.  By the way, DEAR READERS, HOW WAS YOUR VALENTINE?  LOL……..CIAO

40% of the Youths might turn single on Vals day or the day after

First things first! Why are relationships of nowadays so expensive with 100% fixation on material things? Did someone up there not warn us that vanity upon vanity results in vanity?

Being single on Valentine's Day can be a real downer for anyone, but it doesn't have to be a totally miserable exercise! Instead of sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself, be proactive about your situation, dig in and find a way to enjoy the day!

Get your friends together and do something interesting like going out to dinner, the cinema or just hanging out reminiscing about time past. If you want, you can even get dressed up and splurge on something you wouldn't normally order! Treat yourself to your favorite foods and focus on your pals. If your pals are not around then get yourself some gifts and indulge yourself on stuffs. I really can't get the point of being stingy to oneself, and yet spend the money on someone not deserving it? It's not my philosophy! I enjoy myself a lot and whoever I'm with is not a big point to concern my brain with. Those who know me can attest to it. You might even forget about Valentine's Day in the process of making yourself happy, that's if you are single.

Let me state here that some ladies who have boos might  be disappointed. Especially those with extremely untenable taste and at such are expecting heaven and earth from their boos. They might not get it because of several factors in play. Your boo who you obviously penned down as yours might have his/her own boo around, and you, the extra boo will have to make do with your tag as "time-passing boo".

A friend of my friend's girlfriend sells valentine hampers and she pinged my friend to patronize her, by buying one for his babe. The problem? My friend earns approximately 6digits while the cost of the val gift according to her is "just 100k"!

The hamper boasts of Galaxy tab, chocolates, perfume, teddy bear etc. well, my friend asked for my opinion and I told him to buy it, only if the babe is worth it and he would be able to afford. But in my mind, I was like  'Onigbese', 'Alakoba' who wants to ruin another. The dude was like, could this be a set up Yemi? Did my girlfriend tell her friend to approach me to buy val gifts for her? I kept mum, as I do not intend to soil any relationship on the account of my opinion.

Why go through all of this because of 14th? A day just like any other. A good point for the guys on Val's day is that it falls on a working day. Some of us would be busy at work and won't be particularly bothered to make an effort. What's wrong in postponing it till weekend? Some ladies are so insensitive that they would pick offense and insult or pick quarrels with their boyfriends. Need I tell you the result of this? Break up in its full regalia. Some ladies are so smart they won't even be offended. Speaking of being on your best behaviour during this val period.

You might have seen this on people's PM on BlackBerry: "If your man shows you love daily, you'll understand that there's nothing special about VALENTINE". Well I assure you that some of these babes are not alone, they will have people to definitely share love with for a long time.

Have we asked ourselves why most of the ladies in nigeria are so STINGY? They Usually have a long list of what they want for vals and all. Yet, ask what they intend to give in return you will be amazed at their level of reasoning. A colleague once told me all he gets from his babe who is a working class is singlets and boxers every valentine for the past 4 years! Common, what happened to creativity? What happened to adventure? What happened to being spontaneous? Some of our ladies lack innovation romantically yet they will tell you the time and day Beyonce bought Private Jet For  Jay -Z or when Kim Kardashian bought Lamborghini for Kanye West.

We know some guys can be annoying, dumb and stupid. Yes, we know some are looking for the opportunity to break up or would have broken up before the said date,they are not worth it, truth be told. Some guys even said they would prefer a day where they can switch off their phones and remain indoors. Guess the day? 14th of FEBRUARY.  But I still feel that if the woman is understanding and she knows her man's status, she won't expect too much from him and he won't be under pressure because of 1 day out of 365. I'm not saying he shouldn't take you out if he has the means, or that it can't be treated as a special day? Just read between the lines and understand the signs.

Permit me to borrow this excerpts from my female friend , she prophesied:

1. And it shall come to pass in The Book of luv 2:14, on that Val's day, excuses shall arise: My battery was flat, My BIS expired, My dp refused to change, My boss selected me for the trip, There was heavy traffic, I had a flat tyre etc

2. When thou heareth these words or seeth these signs, hold thy peace but know for sure, that thou art no longer thy boo's boo.

3. He that hath ear, let him hear what the Special One saith to those whose hands will fall on this forthcoming Valentine's day.

There might be an updated follow up to this story because Val's day will surely throw up stories of its own

Fishes Don't Fly

Massive Inspiration by femiAGUDA

Fishes don't Fly

Welcome to a whole new week that holds for you great opportunities to meet your goals and target and also to improve your self and offer amazing services to the world.

Today i want you to open your eyes and mind to a vital truth which will help you in life massively.
 More than 70% of your success will be determined by the people with whom you habitual identify and pass your time with. It has been proven that human beings are like chameleons, we take on the attitude, behaviours and belief system of the people we associate with. That is why when you have been with somebody for long, you catch your self sometimes talking like them and laughing like them and you say that is kunle am talking like etc.

At every point in your life there is someone standing there to either help you or hinder you. If your goal is to be successful, then you should associate with successful people. It might be in career, business, sales, sport or Ministry. Why? Because successful people make a habit of building and maintaining a network of high-quality relationships through out their lives.

Remember that fishes don't fly and if you want to soar like eagles, you cannot scratch with chickens or swim with fishes. Its time for you to be wise by walking with the wise, for even the bible says He that walks with the wise shall be wise, but a companion of Fools shall be destroyed.

In summary, i would say " you become like the company you keep". Associate with successful people with a positive outlook on life, people with positive attitudes, positive behaviours and belief systems and watch your life soar to a whole new level. See you on top.


Femi Aguda
@femiaguda (2822C459)
MASSIVE impact...infinite Possibilities.