OJB. (Matters Arising)

Ojb! Ojb!!!!!!!! Is ILL... (BABATUNDE OKUNGBOWA) A.k.a OJB is down with Kidney Problem. Yea I know u know for sure. If you don't, am telling you now. Events unfolding about his kidney problems and how he needs money to do a transplant to get better in shape. First of all, this Man has gone through a lot . I remember vividly the last time he made News concerning his daughter who died from a heart related problem. What else could be demoralizing as that? Psychologically&Emotionally. But there are some questions I would like to ask and also throw open. Also, I have some suggestions concerning this Issue.

1)What if Ojb had health Insurance?
2)What if Ojb had been receiving royalties from his production?
3)What if the government made health policies for the benefit of the populace?
4)What if Ojb had investments that yield? What if Ojb wasn't a superstar?
5)What if ojb had saved for the rainy day?
6)What if Ojb had a financial adviser while he was making hits?
7)What if Ojb knew he won't reign for life as a producer?
8)What if no one pays money into the U.B.A account? What will happen?
9)There are more questions than answers. But I would like to contribute in my own little way. PLEASE NOTE THAT I DO NOT INTEND TO UNDERMINE THE SICK.

#1. I believe stars or superstars have this feeling they would always be in demand for a long period and forget to prepare for the period where they are no longer in demand! Remember, without demand, there is no supply. Just the other day, I read a story on a blog about an artiste who gave out a $10,000 wristwatch to a fan while performing on stage. By my calculations,that amounst to N1.5 million using the exchange rate of N150. Then I ask myself who are you trying to please? This artiste is not even as rich as the likes of Davido, whizkid and Wande Coal, let alone the likes of 2face, D'banj,P-Square and Don jazzy. I hope he can still do that in 10YEARS time !!!.
Back to Ojb, I do not want to blame him for his predicament now because he's down and he who is down should not be looked down on , neither should he be made to feel bad. But if there was a Health Insurance or Scheme put in place , I believe we would not even hear about his ailment . Like wise, the insurance company would have taken care of the bills. All we would have heard was, I was ill and I have done the operation successfully and life goes on. But you see, Nigerians lack Insurance Culture, me inclusive, and we need to ammend this. Even if you earn 80 thousand naira per month, there is no evil in setting aside 10 - 20 %. Of your income on Health Insurance. We spend more on partying, beer and women/men don't we?

#2. The issue of royalties in the music industry. To me , Nigerian Entertainment industry has not yet maximized up to half of its potential. If ojb was receiving royalties from hit productions like African Queen, Nfana Ibaga, True love and the rest. These were Hit Songs, songs that are still evergreen. How come its only the Artiste reaping the benefits and the Music label that had both artiste and producer under it. Let's call a spade , A SPADE. The royalties I believe should be accrued or should have been accrued to OJB should be nothing less than 10-15 million Naira . From all his works and productions. That alone, can take care of his Medical bills. Who makes sure they get these benefits? I heard of a body (COSAN) but how far, how well?

3# I believe the government should enact laws to make it mandatory for its citizens to have health insurance policy cover them. Just like it is mandatory to pay Tax. "HEALTH IS WEALTH". How long shall the Nation continue to loose its citizens due to inadequate funding of its Hospitals? Short-staffed hospitals, inadequate Training of staff, Inadequate Equipments and so on and so forth! There's need for a declaration of a state of Emergency in the Health Sector.

#4. Another issue is the lack of financial management by most of these Stars. Have you heard of Financial Advisors before? These are experts who can educate on Finances. We tend to overlook such priceless advisors. Although it comes with a fee .but at what cost? Financial inteligence and expertise is key for someone who wants to take and stay in control of his financial situations. I implore all other artiste to kindly take heed! Readers also can benefit from this short post. I as a person have benefitted. After all my favourite musician Innocent Idibia says and I quote ' Dem No dey Learn Finish, No body Fit Sabi Finish, So move Forward Instead of Reverse'. Let's Move on .I heard 2face has donated and Donjazzy too. not yet confirmed donjazzy's own but 2face's own is confirmed. What do you feel?

N.B - Please Pay into his account. BABATUNDE OKUNGBOWA, UBA Acct No 1015075120 #SaveOJBJezreel
Your support will go a long way

" Ten Commandments of SEXINESS"(Male)

Nota Bien: I didn't give you these tips oh! The blog did! I only presented it. I don't want any lady chasing me about that I did them "strong thing"! So sit back and relax. Strictly for MEN!!! If you are a woman, please navigate your way back. Lol

Sexy Man Tip #1. Be Relaxed And Chill

The best state for meeting women is actually a chilled out, relaxed state, and not a hyper state where you're bouncing off the walls super excited or freaking out.

The best state for meeting women isn't extravagant. It's just relaxed and chill. Because talking to a girl being all relaxed and chill communicates to her that you're not desperate to please her or kiss her butt or get her approval. It shows her that you're normal and confident.

And the best way to be relaxed and chill is to draw your state from within. You're positive and relaxed from within no matter what's going around you or what the girls are doing. So if a girl gives you a positive response, you just remain relaxed and chill, just as if she were to give you a negative response. You remain un reactive to the ups and downs in the environment. You're steady like a rock. And that's what women want to find in a man.

Sexy Man Tip #2. Don't Apologize For Your Actions

Don't apologize for your actions. When you go up to a girl, or you grab her hand, or you give her a hug, or you give her a compliment, or whatever it is, follow through with your actions and don't apologize for your actions.

Being un-apologetic is the key to getting away with any move, and to get the girl reacting to you. Let's say you make the move,by kissing her and she frowns at it, Mr man do not apologize, you heard, Apology means you did not know what you were doing or you are not sure of yourself! Sometimes, being BOLD to make the move is key. Even if you don't get the desired results. At least, you are 5steps ahead.

Sexy Man Tip #3. Speak Loudly!

Speak Loudly! The loudest guy in the group is typically the guy who has the most social value, who is the leader, who is looked to for leadership, who is the most comfortable guy in a social situation, who is the most confident guy. Because if you're not confident, you won't be talking, let alone talking very loudly. Loudness is a cue for confidence, and girls love it. P.S - loudness denotes bravery, confidence and Charisma. I didn't say you should be a Lousy and noisy type oh! Spot the difference.

Sexy Man Tip #4. Demonstrate Sexual Intent

You want to convey sexual intent to the girl. When you just pretend to play aloof, or you completely hide your sexual interest from the girl, she'll just assume that you're not a sexual guy or you're not interested in her sexually, or you're just a nice guy. By hiding your sexual interest, it ensures that you'll be liked, but it doesn't create any sparks of attraction in the girl. In order words, you have been FRIEND ZONED. Why keep female friends when you don't want to? Don't dull oh!

Instead, you want to convey sexual intent to the girl by showing her in some way, that you have sexual interest in her, that you see her as a sexual woman. Like you can be talking to her normally, but you massage her back. Or you throw up a compliment in the very beginning. Or you hold eye contact and talk slow and sexy. Something that conveys sexual interest and intent.

And that tells the woman that you're confident enough to go after her. And that's what a woman wants to see in a man, confidence to go for what he wants.

Sexy Man Tip #5. Draw Your state From Within

Go out for yourself. And draw your happiness from within yourself. Don't look to women to make you happy. If you need girls on any level to make you happy or feed your ego, that's going to create approach anxiety. Because you have an outcome in mind that you need the girls approval to make you feel good. And that's where you get nervous.

So instead, draw your state within, let go of the outcomes, and your approach anxiety will melt away and you'll feel happier and more fulfilled.

Sexy Man Tip #6. You Like Silences

Be comfortable with silences. Normal conversations will have silences. If you feel like you have to keep talking non-stop to avoid any silences, or to cover up any silences, the girl will notice that and it comes across as nervous and frantic. Silences in fact are a good way to create sexual tension, by talking slowly and making eye contact during the silence, that's where sexual tension can be created. Bang! Make the move Idiot!

Sexy Man Tip #7. It's Okay To Lose

You're not going to win every time and you've got to be cool that. But the times you don't win, you'll learn.

If you're out there taking action, taking responsibility to go out, learning and achieving things, you'll progress. You won't win every time, but you'll achieve. And when you learn and you win and you go, you feel good about yourself, you feel congruent with being a man of action.

Because the worst thing you can do is do nothing with your time and just watch TV or play video games. Because the time will pass and your opportunities will be lost. Do you know how many babes have bounced me? Right from Abeogramms to Unilag? But I kept on moving because Experience is key! It has made me calmer and smoother! Let's say Smooth criminal. *Winks*

Sexy Man Tip #8. Physically Escalate

Physically escalate! You can be the best conversationalist in the world, by funny, be interesting… but that only makes you "cute", it doesn't make you sex worthy attractive to women. Women get sexually attracted and wet between their legs when you TOUCH them. So you need a touch escalation sequence, like hugging the girl, taking her hands, spinning her, whispering into her ear, etc. Oga, just touch! Anywhere, anyhow just touch if you can't make moves...Touch! Touch! Touch! Keep Touching!!!

Sexy Man Tip #9. Let Her Game You Back!

If you're just gaming on the gaming, gaming on the girl, but the girl doesn't game you, you're not going to have sex with her!

You've got to get the girl to chase after you at least part of the time. And you get the girl gaming you in the bonding and rapport stage where you transition into a 50/50 give and take talking ratio. This is where you can ask her questions about herself and you're getting to know the real girl. And she'll ask questions about you, and that in itself is a basic form of the girl gaming you.

Of using push pull physically to push her away, and allow her to step back into the space to touch you back.

And the more she finds herself gaming you, the more she'll find herself liking you and you're that much closer to her sleeping with you.

If I chase a girl constantly for at least a month ! And she doesn't chase back, I simply abandon her! What the hell? Who's she? What's she feeling like? Abeg move on Jaare! You will spend money and time, so who's going to loose?

Sexy Man Tip #10. Be Authentic

Make your conversations real and authentic. A topic I've been covering quite a bit in past lessons. Basically speak about whatever YOU want to speak about it so it seems real and authentic and you're not trying to kiss the girl's ass or trying to impress her and you're not going inside your head for "the right thing to say". And besides, the more real you are, the more balls that takes and the girl likes it, it tells her that you talk to beautiful girls all the time and you're not freaked out by it. Don't be a Dolapooooo !

N.B---- maybe I am spoilt or crazy or a brat! All that matters is am sharing with you all! Guys...Man up!!!

'I Am Adam' Series 3 (PANDEMONIUM)

(In the previous episode, Adam was about going down with Eva and Susan when they heard a knock in the past ! Like wise I said , Fast forward to the present , Adam and his Uncle went to a social gathering where they went for a party which they had to use a code to enter . Check the previous episode' I am Adam Series 2' if you missed it on the blog ).

Adam noticed something about Social Gathering of Substance! You get to meet people, hence, the connection starts....that's if you are not a "DOLAPO". When they got in, two ladies came towards them. Adam was smiling like he won a jackpot. His uncle was on phone so he didn't notice them. To his utmost surprise, as he intended to make his move, they just ignored him and walked towards his uncle. Mehn!, you need to see the look on Adam's face. He was dejected and his uncle knew. He just said hello to the ladies and walked pass them. He was so happy and He taunted at the ladies. Karma is a bitch right? You see, His uncle is a BAD SHARP GUY and won't let anyone look down on his friend let alone of HIM, his own blood.

They got into the apartment and went upstairs. There was a bouncer upstairs, more or less a bodyguard of the house owner. Those who were allowed upstairs were strictly V.I.P'S. You see, his uncle was one of those financing a particular man who was also sited there, urging him to run for Governor in my state. Being a strong man in a political party in Nigeria, he had connects and was very influential. They sat down and his Uncle introduced him as his Brother. Despite the fact that He was his Nephew. There was a different type of music playing at the V.I.P lounge. It was a mixture of Old-school, both foreign and local. A beautiful and curvy lady came to take their Orders and since he was driving, he asked for Energy drink and barbecue.

Back to the past with Eva. While They were exploring , "A knock came in" was where they stopped the last time, know let's continue. They panicked as Eva's sister went towards the door to attend to the person. On getting there, it turned out that it was a post man. He wanted to deliver a letter to the house. Seeing that there was no elderly person at home, he decided to drop it. Meanwhile, Eva was busy pulling his trousers and kissing his body. Mehnnnnnn!, she was good, and she had guts oh! What if someone just bumped in? Immediately her sister returned from attending to the postman, she pounced on him too. In order words, let's say he had his first threesome experience at a tender age. The elder sis will say; "Touch my Nipples", The younger sis will say; "kiss me". Only Him ! He was in for it that day. Different types of experiments they had. She brought out his 'KINI' while she was on top of him. She was about guiding it into the promised land when Another knock was on the door. This Time, it was heavy as if the person was the owner of the house . Eva! Eva! Eva! The voice was Thunderous non-stop. Is that your Dad? He asked her? She said it couldn't be, he comes home very late. Meanwhile, They went to peep from the toilet and Alas, Here he was, 6 foot tall with a biceps like that of "HULK HOGAN", Mr Stephen, Eva's father had arrived from work for God knows the reason!. Like hell was let loose, they ran helter-skelter, naked in the house.

Pandemonium?, please lend me another grammar, this obviously wasn't what they bargained for. Stay tuned for the next episode.

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'Getting Married in my Country' A STATE OF EMERGENCY.

"Next year , I would love to marry , so before then I want to thoroughly party." That's a line in one of 2face's song. Maybe next year , I would say next year again, till you never can tell till all the next years will or might sum up to 4 or 5 years. Why? It is because of the marriage Issues in my country Nigeria. Truly, we are shaped by Culture&Tradition. It affects the way we live and think. After all, I remember Culture is a way of life as defined in primary school. Previously, there was an article on this blog on this same topic. Though, it was short, comical and not elaborate , there was a glimpse of what we were to expect during weddings. It was tagged " Getting Married in My Country". I remember I promised a follow up on it. Before then, let me state here as we journey in this piece that, I am an avid believer in marriage as an institution not just the wedding.

Recently, I headed to the barber shop with my clipper to get a nice clean cut. As expected, I met people on ground. Fortunately, a friend of mine happened to be having his hair cut too, since we both stayed in the same neighborhood, he decided to chill a bit for me to get done. He asked me about the 'I am Adam' series, when the next one will be out. He talked about how he enjoyed the story, its twists, turns, suspense and the fact that I merged the present and the past of the story on the blog. He also said he's an avid visitor on the blog and some times he could quickly read while on his way to work or on his way back. He also gave me some useful tips which I really appreciate he did. Should in case he's reading this. I replied that "I am Adam"is coming soon but the next post I was working on is "Getting Married In My Country". As soon as I made the statement, All hell was let loose....Trust the Male Species.

Igbo Kwenu! Kwenu!! Kwesenu!!!. I hope I got that right? Before I move further, I am not tribalistic. In fact, majority of my friends are not Yorubas.... So I do not intend to start a tribal war. One dude among us said, 'Marrying in Igbo land is expensive generally'. He also noted that IMO state is the most expensive especially Mbise and Owerri. Mind you, his name is Eze and he is from Mbise! I sighed and exclaimed Ehen.... at the same time. Rumours have it that Anambra is also on the high side and they even find it hard marrying outside Anambra. It is said that if the lady is Ada I.e The first Daughter, either Adanma, Adaeze or any other Ada , you will pay through your nose. It is said you might buy for the whole family gifts, food and cash items even up to the extended family, if not the whole village. Am getting scared already. I love Igbo people, their Language and their Garri and soup. Though I have never dated and Igbo girl but I would not mind dating one either. But these stories are disturbing. What if Age is not on our side? What if she truly loves me and wants to settle with me? What if I am not that buoyant? What if I cannot afford the roll call of wedding items? Does that mean I won't get married? I think that explains why some or most of the igbo guys get married very late in life. They will always want to make it before settling down. By the time they are ready, they just pick any lady and marry, not because they love her. Infact, the one they love is already married. This, perhaps explains one of the vital reasons why some marriages don't last.

Aside from the flogging in fulani, I do not really know much about their marriage customs. But I do know in Yoruba Land that they do return Bride price indicating that their daughter is not for sale. Even in most cases, The families of the couple are the ones who sponsor the wedding. They are actively involved in everything till they turn their children's wedding to their own CARNIVAL. With different types of Aso-ebi and Gele. Sometimes if you don't wear Ankara at such parties, you are denied the freebies of such parties. It could be a reason why An average Yoruba Man is married latest by 30 - 35 years. Though, there are exceptional cases. Just like my mother has given me an ULTIMATUM. Yemi you should get married before or on your 30th birthday. I want to carry your child by that time. No be small Thing Oh! E be like say I don get Deadline.

The other dude who happened to be an Edo boy said that wedding was cheap in their area . He said also, that anytime he approached a lady and she was igbo, he quickly withdrew . You could tell he was reacting to what he might have heard. I attended a wedding sometime ago where, the father of the bride gave out two younger ones of the bride to the bridegroom and proclaimed that they were now his responsibility. What type of Culture or Tradition is that? No wonder the man had 9 children, 7 of which were females. Money making ventures if you ask me. At first, did the man marry the lady to cater for the generation unborn? It took the intervention of the Groom's father before they settled for one. The groom's father had insisted that if it was not one, the wedding would not continue. There and then, there was an agreement all in the name of wedding.

There was also a case where the bride's Parents are Educated infact, they are professors in their respective fields and are not poor according to Nigerian standard. But when they realized, that the Groom's father a Commissioner of police and a top shot in the country . They decided to milk him. The list was outrageous .part of which I saw with my eyes was 12 pairs of Italian shoes for the men in the house, 15 pairs of italian shoes and bags for the women in the household including the mother of the bride. I mean, are we Italians? Why request for Italian shoes when we have our home made shoes, not to mention 12 or 15 pairs of foreign wares. For what? Was this necessary or reasonable? Yet the daughter could not caution her parents. Is that Love? Could that be Love? Are they really in Love? Let's set love aside and use our brains for once.

That aside, I want to ask a vital Question; Which is more Important, The wedding or the Marriage? A man once said " The Number of years you will stay married is more than the number of Single Years". So why the Rush? Then if we are to argue that some of these things are a part of our culture & traditions, I want to submit that such culture can be looked into again, as they were not made for this century, nor this generation. This reminds me of Sociology, there is a topic that states that culture evolves and it is dynamic. If we tend to copy the bad aspect of culture from the Americans, can't we copy the good ones too? (The simplicity of their marriages). I hope I get a woman who understands that its not how elaborate the wedding is, but its our marriage that is the main focal point! Let me state personally here that, if any father-inlaw gives me unnecessary and unreasonable list , he should be ready to marry his daughter or he should look else where. Haba !!! The daughters too should step up and caution their parents. They should be realistic, help cut the coats according to their sizes. We already have so many single women who ought to be married and it keeps increasing yearly, if things continue this way, we're in for a declaration of a STATE OF EMERGENCY IN THE MARRIAGE SECTOR. Don't ask me who'll be declaring, but you can be sure it'll be well supported. hmmmmn (deep sigh).............I rest my case.

N.B - thanks to all that contributed during this discussion. Please drop your comments .