Before i go ahead I would like to point out . This write up is not to encourage or discourage anyone from getting married. it is a personal experience, Having said that,here goes:
MARRIAGE MAKES YOU MORE RESPONSIBLE
Yes marriage does this to you. You realise that you not only have to look out for yourself but also for your spouse. It makes you less selfish and you think about the effects of your actions,consequently you make wiser decisions, spend wisely, make better investments, try to stop your bad habits.
COMPANIONSHIP
According to Maslow's hierachy of needs the need for love/belonging/companionship is the 3rd basic human need.
It feels good to know there is someone who loves and understands you, who encourages you, who is always there for you,who can lift you when you are down,who makes you feel special,who appreciates you. Marriage is not just about sex, you can get sex from anywhere. your Spouse will be there for you in a way that no one else can. I would use my Parents as an example,they compliment each other, my Dad's strength is my mother's weakness and vice versa. My Dad is a spendthrift, my Mum is a judicious spender, my Dad talks a lot,my Mum is a good listener(I love listening to my Dad's stories and tales), my Dad has a temper but my Mum is calm, my Dad has good taste in fashion but my Mum has an awful fashion sense(i prefer my Dad buying clothes for me)
Many years ago when i was really young (about 10yrs old),my Dad was involved in a terrible accident. He was hospitalised in UCH Ibadan for 3 months or more,that was one of the toughest period for my Mum,she had to travel lagos-Ibadan route almost on a daily basis cause her husband was in Ibadan and her kids were in Lagos(we were still really young then),my parents run a joint business but during this period in addition to taking care of her husband and her little kids she also had to run the business alone. Only someone who truly loves you would make that kind of sacrifice for you, your sex partner or business partner would not, your male buddies and your female friends would not because they have their own problems and responsibilities but your spouse will cause you are his/her problem and responsibility.
when you are old and grey, you would not be alone(if your spouse is still alive), you would have someone to share your old age with who has also shared your life's journey,someone to sit back and reminiscence with, a true friend....everyone needs and deserves that
EVERY RELATIONSHIP HAS IT'S CHALLENGES
Relationship problems are not restricted to marriage alone, every kind of relationship on the surface of the earth has problems name it employee-boss relationship,relationship with co workers, relationship with friends, even with family-brothers,sisters,parents,cousins, your neighbours etc so why should marriage be different what matters is how you handle it and if you and your spouse truly love each other you would sort it out just like you would sort out the issues you would have with your other relationships if they really matter to you.
IT BUILDS YOUR PERSONALITY
This comes with making you responsible. It's easier to quit your bad habits when you are married, the fact that you are responsible for someone else makes you strive harder to build your personality and be a better person. It's easier to achieve this cause your spouse supports and encourages you. My Dad was a terrible smoker when i was really young, I remember my mum always talking to him about it and encouraging him to quit, fast forward to some years later my Dad quit smoking.
THERE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED COUPLE
the saying that "there are no happily married couples" is a big fallacy. I have used my Parents a lot as examples and that's because they are a very happy couple and the best example I know. there are also many like that. I'm not ruling out the fact that there are no unhappy marriages, of course there are,plenty of them, the problem is a lot of people these days marry for the wrong reasons that's why we see a lot of broken homes or unhappy marriages, you married her for her beauty or him for his money, what happens when the beauty fades or the money is no longer there,what will be the incentive to keep you in that marriage. Marry for the right reasons people, for love and for friendship and you will be happy
KIDS
Studies show that children raised in a happy home are more stable emotionally.
HIGHER EARNINGS
Studies also show that married people earn higher salaries than singles because its a combined earning .
Having said all these I would like to say that the condition for the above to be true is if you marry the right person for the right reason (love).
Seems Uzo has succeeded in preparing me for Marriage . Take the leap and start preparing yourself for the man or woman ahead. It might be a wonderful experience *winks*
Written by UzoAmaka
Edited by Princeyemimike
