OJB. (Matters Arising)

Ojb! Ojb!!!!!!!! Is ILL... (BABATUNDE OKUNGBOWA) A.k.a OJB is down with Kidney Problem. Yea I know u know for sure. If you don't, am telling you now. Events unfolding about his kidney problems and how he needs money to do a transplant to get better in shape. First of all, this Man has gone through a lot . I remember vividly the last time he made News concerning his daughter who died from a heart related problem. What else could be demoralizing as that? Psychologically&Emotionally. But there are some questions I would like to ask and also throw open. Also, I have some suggestions concerning this Issue.

1)What if Ojb had health Insurance?
2)What if Ojb had been receiving royalties from his production?
3)What if the government made health policies for the benefit of the populace?
4)What if Ojb had investments that yield? What if Ojb wasn't a superstar?
5)What if ojb had saved for the rainy day?
6)What if Ojb had a financial adviser while he was making hits?
7)What if Ojb knew he won't reign for life as a producer?
8)What if no one pays money into the U.B.A account? What will happen?
9)There are more questions than answers. But I would like to contribute in my own little way. PLEASE NOTE THAT I DO NOT INTEND TO UNDERMINE THE SICK.

#1. I believe stars or superstars have this feeling they would always be in demand for a long period and forget to prepare for the period where they are no longer in demand! Remember, without demand, there is no supply. Just the other day, I read a story on a blog about an artiste who gave out a $10,000 wristwatch to a fan while performing on stage. By my calculations,that amounst to N1.5 million using the exchange rate of N150. Then I ask myself who are you trying to please? This artiste is not even as rich as the likes of Davido, whizkid and Wande Coal, let alone the likes of 2face, D'banj,P-Square and Don jazzy. I hope he can still do that in 10YEARS time !!!.
Back to Ojb, I do not want to blame him for his predicament now because he's down and he who is down should not be looked down on , neither should he be made to feel bad. But if there was a Health Insurance or Scheme put in place , I believe we would not even hear about his ailment . Like wise, the insurance company would have taken care of the bills. All we would have heard was, I was ill and I have done the operation successfully and life goes on. But you see, Nigerians lack Insurance Culture, me inclusive, and we need to ammend this. Even if you earn 80 thousand naira per month, there is no evil in setting aside 10 - 20 %. Of your income on Health Insurance. We spend more on partying, beer and women/men don't we?

#2. The issue of royalties in the music industry. To me , Nigerian Entertainment industry has not yet maximized up to half of its potential. If ojb was receiving royalties from hit productions like African Queen, Nfana Ibaga, True love and the rest. These were Hit Songs, songs that are still evergreen. How come its only the Artiste reaping the benefits and the Music label that had both artiste and producer under it. Let's call a spade , A SPADE. The royalties I believe should be accrued or should have been accrued to OJB should be nothing less than 10-15 million Naira . From all his works and productions. That alone, can take care of his Medical bills. Who makes sure they get these benefits? I heard of a body (COSAN) but how far, how well?

3# I believe the government should enact laws to make it mandatory for its citizens to have health insurance policy cover them. Just like it is mandatory to pay Tax. "HEALTH IS WEALTH". How long shall the Nation continue to loose its citizens due to inadequate funding of its Hospitals? Short-staffed hospitals, inadequate Training of staff, Inadequate Equipments and so on and so forth! There's need for a declaration of a state of Emergency in the Health Sector.

#4. Another issue is the lack of financial management by most of these Stars. Have you heard of Financial Advisors before? These are experts who can educate on Finances. We tend to overlook such priceless advisors. Although it comes with a fee .but at what cost? Financial inteligence and expertise is key for someone who wants to take and stay in control of his financial situations. I implore all other artiste to kindly take heed! Readers also can benefit from this short post. I as a person have benefitted. After all my favourite musician Innocent Idibia says and I quote ' Dem No dey Learn Finish, No body Fit Sabi Finish, So move Forward Instead of Reverse'. Let's Move on .I heard 2face has donated and Donjazzy too. not yet confirmed donjazzy's own but 2face's own is confirmed. What do you feel?

N.B - Please Pay into his account. BABATUNDE OKUNGBOWA, UBA Acct No 1015075120 #SaveOJBJezreel
Your support will go a long way

" Ten Commandments of SEXINESS"(Male)

Nota Bien: I didn't give you these tips oh! The blog did! I only presented it. I don't want any lady chasing me about that I did them "strong thing"! So sit back and relax. Strictly for MEN!!! If you are a woman, please navigate your way back. Lol

Sexy Man Tip #1. Be Relaxed And Chill

The best state for meeting women is actually a chilled out, relaxed state, and not a hyper state where you're bouncing off the walls super excited or freaking out.

The best state for meeting women isn't extravagant. It's just relaxed and chill. Because talking to a girl being all relaxed and chill communicates to her that you're not desperate to please her or kiss her butt or get her approval. It shows her that you're normal and confident.

And the best way to be relaxed and chill is to draw your state from within. You're positive and relaxed from within no matter what's going around you or what the girls are doing. So if a girl gives you a positive response, you just remain relaxed and chill, just as if she were to give you a negative response. You remain un reactive to the ups and downs in the environment. You're steady like a rock. And that's what women want to find in a man.

Sexy Man Tip #2. Don't Apologize For Your Actions

Don't apologize for your actions. When you go up to a girl, or you grab her hand, or you give her a hug, or you give her a compliment, or whatever it is, follow through with your actions and don't apologize for your actions.

Being un-apologetic is the key to getting away with any move, and to get the girl reacting to you. Let's say you make the move,by kissing her and she frowns at it, Mr man do not apologize, you heard, Apology means you did not know what you were doing or you are not sure of yourself! Sometimes, being BOLD to make the move is key. Even if you don't get the desired results. At least, you are 5steps ahead.

Sexy Man Tip #3. Speak Loudly!

Speak Loudly! The loudest guy in the group is typically the guy who has the most social value, who is the leader, who is looked to for leadership, who is the most comfortable guy in a social situation, who is the most confident guy. Because if you're not confident, you won't be talking, let alone talking very loudly. Loudness is a cue for confidence, and girls love it. P.S - loudness denotes bravery, confidence and Charisma. I didn't say you should be a Lousy and noisy type oh! Spot the difference.

Sexy Man Tip #4. Demonstrate Sexual Intent

You want to convey sexual intent to the girl. When you just pretend to play aloof, or you completely hide your sexual interest from the girl, she'll just assume that you're not a sexual guy or you're not interested in her sexually, or you're just a nice guy. By hiding your sexual interest, it ensures that you'll be liked, but it doesn't create any sparks of attraction in the girl. In order words, you have been FRIEND ZONED. Why keep female friends when you don't want to? Don't dull oh!

Instead, you want to convey sexual intent to the girl by showing her in some way, that you have sexual interest in her, that you see her as a sexual woman. Like you can be talking to her normally, but you massage her back. Or you throw up a compliment in the very beginning. Or you hold eye contact and talk slow and sexy. Something that conveys sexual interest and intent.

And that tells the woman that you're confident enough to go after her. And that's what a woman wants to see in a man, confidence to go for what he wants.

Sexy Man Tip #5. Draw Your state From Within

Go out for yourself. And draw your happiness from within yourself. Don't look to women to make you happy. If you need girls on any level to make you happy or feed your ego, that's going to create approach anxiety. Because you have an outcome in mind that you need the girls approval to make you feel good. And that's where you get nervous.

So instead, draw your state within, let go of the outcomes, and your approach anxiety will melt away and you'll feel happier and more fulfilled.

Sexy Man Tip #6. You Like Silences

Be comfortable with silences. Normal conversations will have silences. If you feel like you have to keep talking non-stop to avoid any silences, or to cover up any silences, the girl will notice that and it comes across as nervous and frantic. Silences in fact are a good way to create sexual tension, by talking slowly and making eye contact during the silence, that's where sexual tension can be created. Bang! Make the move Idiot!

Sexy Man Tip #7. It's Okay To Lose

You're not going to win every time and you've got to be cool that. But the times you don't win, you'll learn.

If you're out there taking action, taking responsibility to go out, learning and achieving things, you'll progress. You won't win every time, but you'll achieve. And when you learn and you win and you go, you feel good about yourself, you feel congruent with being a man of action.

Because the worst thing you can do is do nothing with your time and just watch TV or play video games. Because the time will pass and your opportunities will be lost. Do you know how many babes have bounced me? Right from Abeogramms to Unilag? But I kept on moving because Experience is key! It has made me calmer and smoother! Let's say Smooth criminal. *Winks*

Sexy Man Tip #8. Physically Escalate

Physically escalate! You can be the best conversationalist in the world, by funny, be interesting… but that only makes you "cute", it doesn't make you sex worthy attractive to women. Women get sexually attracted and wet between their legs when you TOUCH them. So you need a touch escalation sequence, like hugging the girl, taking her hands, spinning her, whispering into her ear, etc. Oga, just touch! Anywhere, anyhow just touch if you can't make moves...Touch! Touch! Touch! Keep Touching!!!

Sexy Man Tip #9. Let Her Game You Back!

If you're just gaming on the gaming, gaming on the girl, but the girl doesn't game you, you're not going to have sex with her!

You've got to get the girl to chase after you at least part of the time. And you get the girl gaming you in the bonding and rapport stage where you transition into a 50/50 give and take talking ratio. This is where you can ask her questions about herself and you're getting to know the real girl. And she'll ask questions about you, and that in itself is a basic form of the girl gaming you.

Of using push pull physically to push her away, and allow her to step back into the space to touch you back.

And the more she finds herself gaming you, the more she'll find herself liking you and you're that much closer to her sleeping with you.

If I chase a girl constantly for at least a month ! And she doesn't chase back, I simply abandon her! What the hell? Who's she? What's she feeling like? Abeg move on Jaare! You will spend money and time, so who's going to loose?

Sexy Man Tip #10. Be Authentic

Make your conversations real and authentic. A topic I've been covering quite a bit in past lessons. Basically speak about whatever YOU want to speak about it so it seems real and authentic and you're not trying to kiss the girl's ass or trying to impress her and you're not going inside your head for "the right thing to say". And besides, the more real you are, the more balls that takes and the girl likes it, it tells her that you talk to beautiful girls all the time and you're not freaked out by it. Don't be a Dolapooooo !

N.B---- maybe I am spoilt or crazy or a brat! All that matters is am sharing with you all! Guys...Man up!!!

'I Am Adam' Series 3 (PANDEMONIUM)

(In the previous episode, Adam was about going down with Eva and Susan when they heard a knock in the past ! Like wise I said , Fast forward to the present , Adam and his Uncle went to a social gathering where they went for a party which they had to use a code to enter . Check the previous episode' I am Adam Series 2' if you missed it on the blog ).

Adam noticed something about Social Gathering of Substance! You get to meet people, hence, the connection starts....that's if you are not a "DOLAPO". When they got in, two ladies came towards them. Adam was smiling like he won a jackpot. His uncle was on phone so he didn't notice them. To his utmost surprise, as he intended to make his move, they just ignored him and walked towards his uncle. Mehn!, you need to see the look on Adam's face. He was dejected and his uncle knew. He just said hello to the ladies and walked pass them. He was so happy and He taunted at the ladies. Karma is a bitch right? You see, His uncle is a BAD SHARP GUY and won't let anyone look down on his friend let alone of HIM, his own blood.

They got into the apartment and went upstairs. There was a bouncer upstairs, more or less a bodyguard of the house owner. Those who were allowed upstairs were strictly V.I.P'S. You see, his uncle was one of those financing a particular man who was also sited there, urging him to run for Governor in my state. Being a strong man in a political party in Nigeria, he had connects and was very influential. They sat down and his Uncle introduced him as his Brother. Despite the fact that He was his Nephew. There was a different type of music playing at the V.I.P lounge. It was a mixture of Old-school, both foreign and local. A beautiful and curvy lady came to take their Orders and since he was driving, he asked for Energy drink and barbecue.

Back to the past with Eva. While They were exploring , "A knock came in" was where they stopped the last time, know let's continue. They panicked as Eva's sister went towards the door to attend to the person. On getting there, it turned out that it was a post man. He wanted to deliver a letter to the house. Seeing that there was no elderly person at home, he decided to drop it. Meanwhile, Eva was busy pulling his trousers and kissing his body. Mehnnnnnn!, she was good, and she had guts oh! What if someone just bumped in? Immediately her sister returned from attending to the postman, she pounced on him too. In order words, let's say he had his first threesome experience at a tender age. The elder sis will say; "Touch my Nipples", The younger sis will say; "kiss me". Only Him ! He was in for it that day. Different types of experiments they had. She brought out his 'KINI' while she was on top of him. She was about guiding it into the promised land when Another knock was on the door. This Time, it was heavy as if the person was the owner of the house . Eva! Eva! Eva! The voice was Thunderous non-stop. Is that your Dad? He asked her? She said it couldn't be, he comes home very late. Meanwhile, They went to peep from the toilet and Alas, Here he was, 6 foot tall with a biceps like that of "HULK HOGAN", Mr Stephen, Eva's father had arrived from work for God knows the reason!. Like hell was let loose, they ran helter-skelter, naked in the house.

Pandemonium?, please lend me another grammar, this obviously wasn't what they bargained for. Stay tuned for the next episode.

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'Getting Married in my Country' A STATE OF EMERGENCY.

"Next year , I would love to marry , so before then I want to thoroughly party." That's a line in one of 2face's song. Maybe next year , I would say next year again, till you never can tell till all the next years will or might sum up to 4 or 5 years. Why? It is because of the marriage Issues in my country Nigeria. Truly, we are shaped by Culture&Tradition. It affects the way we live and think. After all, I remember Culture is a way of life as defined in primary school. Previously, there was an article on this blog on this same topic. Though, it was short, comical and not elaborate , there was a glimpse of what we were to expect during weddings. It was tagged " Getting Married in My Country". I remember I promised a follow up on it. Before then, let me state here as we journey in this piece that, I am an avid believer in marriage as an institution not just the wedding.

Recently, I headed to the barber shop with my clipper to get a nice clean cut. As expected, I met people on ground. Fortunately, a friend of mine happened to be having his hair cut too, since we both stayed in the same neighborhood, he decided to chill a bit for me to get done. He asked me about the 'I am Adam' series, when the next one will be out. He talked about how he enjoyed the story, its twists, turns, suspense and the fact that I merged the present and the past of the story on the blog. He also said he's an avid visitor on the blog and some times he could quickly read while on his way to work or on his way back. He also gave me some useful tips which I really appreciate he did. Should in case he's reading this. I replied that "I am Adam"is coming soon but the next post I was working on is "Getting Married In My Country". As soon as I made the statement, All hell was let loose....Trust the Male Species.

Igbo Kwenu! Kwenu!! Kwesenu!!!. I hope I got that right? Before I move further, I am not tribalistic. In fact, majority of my friends are not Yorubas.... So I do not intend to start a tribal war. One dude among us said, 'Marrying in Igbo land is expensive generally'. He also noted that IMO state is the most expensive especially Mbise and Owerri. Mind you, his name is Eze and he is from Mbise! I sighed and exclaimed Ehen.... at the same time. Rumours have it that Anambra is also on the high side and they even find it hard marrying outside Anambra. It is said that if the lady is Ada I.e The first Daughter, either Adanma, Adaeze or any other Ada , you will pay through your nose. It is said you might buy for the whole family gifts, food and cash items even up to the extended family, if not the whole village. Am getting scared already. I love Igbo people, their Language and their Garri and soup. Though I have never dated and Igbo girl but I would not mind dating one either. But these stories are disturbing. What if Age is not on our side? What if she truly loves me and wants to settle with me? What if I am not that buoyant? What if I cannot afford the roll call of wedding items? Does that mean I won't get married? I think that explains why some or most of the igbo guys get married very late in life. They will always want to make it before settling down. By the time they are ready, they just pick any lady and marry, not because they love her. Infact, the one they love is already married. This, perhaps explains one of the vital reasons why some marriages don't last.

Aside from the flogging in fulani, I do not really know much about their marriage customs. But I do know in Yoruba Land that they do return Bride price indicating that their daughter is not for sale. Even in most cases, The families of the couple are the ones who sponsor the wedding. They are actively involved in everything till they turn their children's wedding to their own CARNIVAL. With different types of Aso-ebi and Gele. Sometimes if you don't wear Ankara at such parties, you are denied the freebies of such parties. It could be a reason why An average Yoruba Man is married latest by 30 - 35 years. Though, there are exceptional cases. Just like my mother has given me an ULTIMATUM. Yemi you should get married before or on your 30th birthday. I want to carry your child by that time. No be small Thing Oh! E be like say I don get Deadline.

The other dude who happened to be an Edo boy said that wedding was cheap in their area . He said also, that anytime he approached a lady and she was igbo, he quickly withdrew . You could tell he was reacting to what he might have heard. I attended a wedding sometime ago where, the father of the bride gave out two younger ones of the bride to the bridegroom and proclaimed that they were now his responsibility. What type of Culture or Tradition is that? No wonder the man had 9 children, 7 of which were females. Money making ventures if you ask me. At first, did the man marry the lady to cater for the generation unborn? It took the intervention of the Groom's father before they settled for one. The groom's father had insisted that if it was not one, the wedding would not continue. There and then, there was an agreement all in the name of wedding.

There was also a case where the bride's Parents are Educated infact, they are professors in their respective fields and are not poor according to Nigerian standard. But when they realized, that the Groom's father a Commissioner of police and a top shot in the country . They decided to milk him. The list was outrageous .part of which I saw with my eyes was 12 pairs of Italian shoes for the men in the house, 15 pairs of italian shoes and bags for the women in the household including the mother of the bride. I mean, are we Italians? Why request for Italian shoes when we have our home made shoes, not to mention 12 or 15 pairs of foreign wares. For what? Was this necessary or reasonable? Yet the daughter could not caution her parents. Is that Love? Could that be Love? Are they really in Love? Let's set love aside and use our brains for once.

That aside, I want to ask a vital Question; Which is more Important, The wedding or the Marriage? A man once said " The Number of years you will stay married is more than the number of Single Years". So why the Rush? Then if we are to argue that some of these things are a part of our culture & traditions, I want to submit that such culture can be looked into again, as they were not made for this century, nor this generation. This reminds me of Sociology, there is a topic that states that culture evolves and it is dynamic. If we tend to copy the bad aspect of culture from the Americans, can't we copy the good ones too? (The simplicity of their marriages). I hope I get a woman who understands that its not how elaborate the wedding is, but its our marriage that is the main focal point! Let me state personally here that, if any father-inlaw gives me unnecessary and unreasonable list , he should be ready to marry his daughter or he should look else where. Haba !!! The daughters too should step up and caution their parents. They should be realistic, help cut the coats according to their sizes. We already have so many single women who ought to be married and it keeps increasing yearly, if things continue this way, we're in for a declaration of a STATE OF EMERGENCY IN THE MARRIAGE SECTOR. Don't ask me who'll be declaring, but you can be sure it'll be well supported. hmmmmn (deep sigh).............I rest my case.

N.B - thanks to all that contributed during this discussion. Please drop your comments .

“My SINGLE Girlfriend"

Its so amazing how people can be married yet single. Either in their Hearts or through their words and Actions. The state of being in a relationship for reasons of Social Status, or as a result of Peer pressure has become a popular trend.

It isn't an unknown fact , neither is it strange to know that many of us are in relationships, and yet single in our mind,Heart, body, soul and Perhaps spirit. Judging by number of stories and events readily available in our society today, one cannot be left confused about the state of 'relationships' in our today's society.

Is it the Numerous Cases of Couples, who barely after 6 months begin to see their Marriages as Mistakes? Or the Husband who after marriage begins his SEXUAL ESCAPADES with his numerous girlfriends or Ex's ? What about the Wives who go into relationships with younger men ' FRESH BLOODS' as they are popularly termed. I have seen heard and still seeing a handful of sour and unpleasant relationship stories in this Dynamic Society of Ours. I will need to stop here for another day and talk about the main Topic which is titled “My SINGLE Girlfriend".

Memo is what the Hood or like some dudes would call "Sexy Mama". I call her Sexy Mama also, especially when I tease her, give her a compliment or need a Favour from her. She is "Miss Endowed". My Friends still don't know why I haven't asked her out yet. Let's say she is not just my Type, Specs or Specie. Whichever way you can grab the message. The reason is, I am yet to meet a woman who I am interested in, that I would not approach and give her The EPISTLE of How, Why and When She needs to be with me. The worst Scenario is she refuses me and I will try again. If she's adamant, I simply move on because there is 'no time'. Like my friend @Osisiye would say " Ko Si Ere Ni Moscow" meaning we are not here to play.  I am sure; Memo is confused on why I have not asked her out yet. If only she knew, I am not keen nor attracted to her. By the way, my heart doesn't race while we are together. So kini big deal?

Earlier this year, I and Memo with a couple of friends were opportuned to be at a gathering. Then, that Issue we were avoiding came up. Boyfriend&Girlfriend. Who had, who didn't, We discussed at length, Yet the more we engaged in it, the more it became Interesting. All along, Memo didn't utter a word. She participated by Giggling, Laughing & She Periodically gave a Nod at what others had to share. I noticed it, Tega noticed it too. Just as he was about to ask, we both asked her simultaneously; "Memo, What about your Boyfriend?" She Responded Defensively: "I have a Boyfriend" she said, with a sheepish look and a Slight Smile on her Left face & cheek. Then I fired back that we were not asking her out, neither were we interested in doing so. We only inquired to know her status innocently. Speaking about Status, her Face Book profile stated "Single but Not Searching". Yet she had a boyfriend right? I was waiting for the day to nail her and the faithful Day Came.

A Friend to a Friend of hers introduced a product for guys which she sells to Memo, Urging her to buy for her boyfriend. Memo's response was that she had a boyfriend but technically, she was single at 'HEART'. .......Egbami! (Please Deliver Me). This is getting serious right? Well that Friend happens to be my friend too and we were gisting when. Memo's matter came up. I contacted memo later and she affirmed the statement not without calling my Informant *Amebo*... But who cares anyway?  I asked her why? And she gave numerous explanations that she has a boyfriend no doubt, but her heart is not into it.....I was stunned but I recovered swiftly. After all, 'What a man can do, a woman can do better'. Why Memo decided to make the guy believe they were dating, yet in her heart she is *SINGLE*, I don't know and cannot comprehend. Yet the question is this, Why not let go of the Guy if you are not fully into it?  Events might unfold for part 2 of MEMO………………

In the meantime, what do you think of this? Kindly Drop your Comments.

Why Do Men cHEat? by Azeezat

It’s a “MAN’S” World…….……Fact or Fiction?
Why do men cheat? Is it because it is deeply embedded in their nature? I write because I have come to observe that in our society (Nigeria) and in places all over the world, the “Male” gender does a lot and gets away with it, with reference to their relationship or relationships with “Women”. Men are often seen and known for being with more than one woman, whether married, engaged or in a relationship. Although, in some cases, some men are allowed to marry or have more than one woman as companion because of their religion or due to traditional ethics or protocol. Other than these reasons, God often expects utmost sincerity and faithfulness from us when we find ourselves in a relationship or in marriage to our partner.

We all know in the case of most “men” this is far from the truth. Men, guys, dudes, boys, the male gender in general gets busy frolicking with other girls, ladies, women whilst in a serious relationship or marriage just for fun. Even in committing this unfaithful atrocity, they do not wish for any man to lay a finger on their wife or the lady they are madly in love with and intend to spend the rest of their life with. This brings me to ask “Would you call this selfish of men or would you say it’s their Legal Right?” If your answer is “Yes” to the formal, I ask you, do men do this because they believe they can get away with cheating or frolicking just because they are “men”? If your answer remains “Yes” to the latter, I ask you again, how is right for them to say their wife is untouchable to any man but them, yet, it is right for them to touch that of another and in the process cheat on their wife and expect their wife to be one hundred percent faithful to them. “Karma they say is a Big B****”


In most cases, men are known to end their relationships or marriage the moment they find out their wife, girlfriend or fiancée is cheating or has cheated on them, regardless of how many times they have cheated on her. To a man it does not count that he has cheated countless number of times. In fact, cheating only starts to count when his spouse does this. Men are known to hardly forgive and continue such relationships this happens. I asked Tunde Omotosho, a childhood friend of mine why men hardly forgive in this case and he said “It’s an ego thing” it’s like she’s saying I can’t satisfy her enough, or I am not good enough in terms of TLC (Tender Love and Care) so she has to go get it elsewhere and it means she does not love me enough to remain faithful. Then I asked him “If ego is what is involved, don’t you feel you’ve bruised hers when u cheated or does disrespecting of ego only counts when it’s a man that’s the victim? He just gave me a funny look……lolls.


 In other cases, some men react angrily and even become violent towards the woman or towards the furniture’s and fittings at home. Some men even break down in tears or lose their sanity for a while; in fact, it kills some part of their libido or enthusiasm to carry out their usual daily activities. When I asked another friend of mine Isaac Jonah, why men hardly forgive and react same and he said to me “it’s just the way we are wired up?” Then I asked him “Are you saying men are wired up to cheat but not wired up to forgive when their spouse does same?” To me it sounds like saying Men cheating or frolicking is not a crime when men commit it but when it is their woman or companion then it is wrong and an abomination or unforgiveable to them and the society at large. Which brings me to ask, what makes it seem right for a man and wrong for a woman? What happened to the saying “Want for your partner what you want for yourself” Can someone tell me WHY MEN CHEAT? Do share your views……………… Azizat Usman.

"I Am Adam" Series 2

........Hehehehe! You remember that uncle of mine I talked about in the last episode, he suprised me when he came in. He was talking about a party where all the Big Boys & Big Girls in the oil and gas industry will be in attendance. We drove down in his Prado Jeep down to a coded location around Lekki express way. From the house to the location, my uncle smoked 2packets of Malboro. Did I mention he drinks too? But guess what, he doesn't womanize. Only that women chase him a lot. I have learnt something from him. He keeps saying, "Adam, work Hard but work Smarter. Don't look at women now, when you are successful, they will come calling". I thought he was just being philosophical until the babes I would go after on my legs would leave me when guy who had a car came around . That was in my 1st year in the university though, my 2nd year was a revenge.


Back to Eva, she rushed to me and kissed me passionately. I just stood there frozen like a chicken, being a novice at it, and it was my first time, I carried along! She was giving me instructions on how to kiss her , her neck, her ears and before I could say jack, she dragged me to her room and I obliged like a ram about to be sacrificed. She put her hands in my pants. As at then it used to be pants , not the boxer trends of now. She whispered into my ears ; you have a fine 'Kokoro'. I just couldn't say anything, remember I was the student, and she was the teacher. She undressed herself like she was stripping, Got to know about that word 'stripper' in secondary school when some friends and I used to embark on fiery escapades to a strippers club. Details of that event, later. Then I saw two naked peanuts, I would not say they were fully grown breasts, but they were still growing, fresh, smooth and spicy. She said touch my breast! I was shaking as I made way towards the "Twin Towers". Immediately she grabbed my hands and placed it on both 'Manchesters'. She said I should squeeze them, Mistakenly I pinched them and she moaned with pleasure and a little pain. As I was going through this 8unit course, Susan, Eva's sister was knocking on the door. She told me to continue and not mind her. She pecked my neck and was kissing me from up till down. At intervals, she asked Do you like it? I just grinned. Susan kept knocking with force, this time, continously. Eva finally stood up reluctantly and dashed to the door.



When the door was finally open for her, Susan was naked. Did she know what we were doing? Was this event planned? I had no idea. Susan's Manchesters were bigger and like ripe oranges . My eyes were popping out like I was seeing something new, which I was anyway. Eva walked towards susan and they were speaking their local language. From their countenance, someone was not happy. While they were busy with their discussion, I was putting on my clothes back. Susan looked at my direction and coughed, Eva turned too. As if it was planned, both of them pounced on me and I was back to being the same as I was born. They ordered me to lay down, which I did and they tied my hands. Was I not supposed to scream? Yell? Or shout for help? I didn't , I wanted to see the end of the thriller . As Eva was about coming on the bed , it was a bunk. Eva the older sister slept up, while Susan slept down. I liked Susan's lips better but I prefered Eva's body and I could handle her peanuts better.Just as we were Kissing, We heard a knock! We ignored, we heard the knocks coming in faster and more regular. This is Serious Gobe oh!


Watchout for the next episode, My Uncle and I just arrived at the venue. Mehn, we used a password to enter the mansion oh! Lots of Exotic Cars at the venue. In Fact, Our Prado Jeep was like a cab where the likes of G-Wagon, Range Vouge, Rolls Royce and Ferrari were Parked at the Venue. If you were not invited, you would not know the password . Except someone like my uncle brought you. By the way, I see Babes, Barbecues & Drinks everywhere!

N.B - Fiction

"I Am Adam (The Series) 001".

Hi, my name is Adam .that’s all you need to know for now. Subsequently, you will know more. I was born with a silver spoon; I would not lie about that. I had several toys, shoes, clothes, in short, I was spoilt with the good things of life. I attended a private nursery & primary school. I can’t vividly remember all the scenarios I had while growing up, but sit back relax and take a chill pill as I reveal the adventures of Adam episode by episode.

I want to tell you about my first contact with a woman. I can’t remember the exact age then, but I was definitely in primary school! YES I was, don’t be surprised, there is this notion that most of us who attended private schools are spoilt brats. Well I intend to debate that some other day.
Life was, and is still rosy for me. Though, I have had ups and downs, but its all a part of the making, that’s life for you. We were so exposed to so many things then, when I mean us, I meant most of the people who would later unfold in this series. Some had its advantages while some had its disadvantages.

Eva! Eva! Eva!!!!! I had to exclaim that name thrice. You see, Eva used to be my neighbour back then along with her sister Susan. If there was anyone who introduced me to bad things, or let’s say the first bad thing, I would say it was Eva. I knew how to use my short thing back then thanks to Eva. Although it’s a "LONG THING" now. After school hours then, I and my brother Steve will go to their apartment to cool off as our parents were not usually around. We sometimes had lunch at their place. Their mum was always around because she was also a teacher. By the time we were all well fed, she would order us to bring out our assignments with a cane...you dare not disobey her; I left out the fact that she was a lefty. We would quickly and accurately finish our assignments, she also made sure she crosschecked, else its dooms day for us. Back then I was a very good boy in class and at home. I never had the 1st position, I know! And I don’t intend to tell my children lies of how I became 1st from primary till secondary school. You know such is the trend now. I was above average then. There was a time I came 4th (I t turned out to be my best holiday at home, I was so spoilt with gifts and care).

Back to Eva, this babe looked like Eva Mendes my CRUSH OF LIFE. I would say there are only 3 women I know that look like Eva Mendes. As you can see, I am not a womanizer. Just three women alone. Eva was epic, soothing voice that sounded like a very good ringtone back then. I used to be very innocent then, Very innocent like Innocent Idibia.
Then came this UNLUCKY day, or perhaps it was my lucky day. We were at her place, the four of us. We were all alone, her mum had cooked spaghetti with sardines and boiled eggs for us and we had maltina chilling for us in the fridge. The truth is Eva’s mum could cook!!!. Her delicacies were always DELICATE to the nose and mouth. We were eating when all of a sudden THE lights came back on. Did I mention that it went off when it we came back from school? Eva opened the television; yes she opened the television, if you are between the ages of 24 – 35. You would understand the kind of television I am referring to Televisions that had two legs and was like a cupboard or let’s say shelve where 50 rats could hide. Thank goodness for technology now. Unknown to us, Eva innocently pressed the play button in the video cassette player or the video player played automatically, cant really phantom it, because it was indicating that a cassette was in it.
That was how for the first time in our lives we saw a “MOJO”. Some call it “MJ”. Some call it “ADVANCED FILM”. Our uncles used to call it “BLUE FILM”. Right here before our own very eyes, we were SHOCKED, DUMBFOUNDED and SURPRISED. Sorry Guys, one of my Uncles that used to call it “BLUE FILM” just stepped in now and today is Friday. It’s like he brought some goodies, he just came back from a business trip in Germany. Stay Tuned for the Next Episode.
N.B - FICTION.

SIR ALEX FERGUSON " The Great ".

Sir Alex was and is Still a Great Manager. He won so many titles, total of 49. From 1976 in St Mirren where he won 1 trophy to 1979 in Aberden where he won 10 trophies and to his last and greatest achievements at Manchester United in1986- May 8 , 2013 where he won an astonishing 38 trophies. This man has given most, if not his entire life to football. This is a man who also had a playing career before taking up coaching.

I believe he should be celebrated. In fact, he's the reason why I decided to write sport articles, though I had nursed the ambition but postponed it till today. Thanks To Sir Alex , We have seen names like Peter Schmichaels, Eric Cantona,Roy Keane, Ole Gonner Solksjaer, Paul Scholes, David Beckham, Ryan Giggs, Wayne Rooney, Cristiano. Ronaldo and Van Nisterooy. From The Come Back upset of 1999 against Bayern and Clinching United's Title from their Noisy Neighbours with the super signing of Robin Van Persie. This man did it the 20th title for United with the Number 20 jersey wearing Man. All good Things Come to an End Truly! Thank You Sir Alex Ferguson.

N.B( I am not a United Fan)