“My SINGLE Girlfriend"

Its so amazing how people can be married yet single. Either in their Hearts or through their words and Actions. The state of being in a relationship for reasons of Social Status, or as a result of Peer pressure has become a popular trend.

It isn't an unknown fact , neither is it strange to know that many of us are in relationships, and yet single in our mind,Heart, body, soul and Perhaps spirit. Judging by number of stories and events readily available in our society today, one cannot be left confused about the state of 'relationships' in our today's society.

Is it the Numerous Cases of Couples, who barely after 6 months begin to see their Marriages as Mistakes? Or the Husband who after marriage begins his SEXUAL ESCAPADES with his numerous girlfriends or Ex's ? What about the Wives who go into relationships with younger men ' FRESH BLOODS' as they are popularly termed. I have seen heard and still seeing a handful of sour and unpleasant relationship stories in this Dynamic Society of Ours. I will need to stop here for another day and talk about the main Topic which is titled “My SINGLE Girlfriend".

Memo is what the Hood or like some dudes would call "Sexy Mama". I call her Sexy Mama also, especially when I tease her, give her a compliment or need a Favour from her. She is "Miss Endowed". My Friends still don't know why I haven't asked her out yet. Let's say she is not just my Type, Specs or Specie. Whichever way you can grab the message. The reason is, I am yet to meet a woman who I am interested in, that I would not approach and give her The EPISTLE of How, Why and When She needs to be with me. The worst Scenario is she refuses me and I will try again. If she's adamant, I simply move on because there is 'no time'. Like my friend @Osisiye would say " Ko Si Ere Ni Moscow" meaning we are not here to play.  I am sure; Memo is confused on why I have not asked her out yet. If only she knew, I am not keen nor attracted to her. By the way, my heart doesn't race while we are together. So kini big deal?

Earlier this year, I and Memo with a couple of friends were opportuned to be at a gathering. Then, that Issue we were avoiding came up. Boyfriend&Girlfriend. Who had, who didn't, We discussed at length, Yet the more we engaged in it, the more it became Interesting. All along, Memo didn't utter a word. She participated by Giggling, Laughing & She Periodically gave a Nod at what others had to share. I noticed it, Tega noticed it too. Just as he was about to ask, we both asked her simultaneously; "Memo, What about your Boyfriend?" She Responded Defensively: "I have a Boyfriend" she said, with a sheepish look and a Slight Smile on her Left face & cheek. Then I fired back that we were not asking her out, neither were we interested in doing so. We only inquired to know her status innocently. Speaking about Status, her Face Book profile stated "Single but Not Searching". Yet she had a boyfriend right? I was waiting for the day to nail her and the faithful Day Came.

A Friend to a Friend of hers introduced a product for guys which she sells to Memo, Urging her to buy for her boyfriend. Memo's response was that she had a boyfriend but technically, she was single at 'HEART'. .......Egbami! (Please Deliver Me). This is getting serious right? Well that Friend happens to be my friend too and we were gisting when. Memo's matter came up. I contacted memo later and she affirmed the statement not without calling my Informant *Amebo*... But who cares anyway?  I asked her why? And she gave numerous explanations that she has a boyfriend no doubt, but her heart is not into it.....I was stunned but I recovered swiftly. After all, 'What a man can do, a woman can do better'. Why Memo decided to make the guy believe they were dating, yet in her heart she is *SINGLE*, I don't know and cannot comprehend. Yet the question is this, Why not let go of the Guy if you are not fully into it?  Events might unfold for part 2 of MEMO………………

In the meantime, what do you think of this? Kindly Drop your Comments.

Why Do Men cHEat? by Azeezat

It’s a “MAN’S” World…….……Fact or Fiction?
Why do men cheat? Is it because it is deeply embedded in their nature? I write because I have come to observe that in our society (Nigeria) and in places all over the world, the “Male” gender does a lot and gets away with it, with reference to their relationship or relationships with “Women”. Men are often seen and known for being with more than one woman, whether married, engaged or in a relationship. Although, in some cases, some men are allowed to marry or have more than one woman as companion because of their religion or due to traditional ethics or protocol. Other than these reasons, God often expects utmost sincerity and faithfulness from us when we find ourselves in a relationship or in marriage to our partner.

We all know in the case of most “men” this is far from the truth. Men, guys, dudes, boys, the male gender in general gets busy frolicking with other girls, ladies, women whilst in a serious relationship or marriage just for fun. Even in committing this unfaithful atrocity, they do not wish for any man to lay a finger on their wife or the lady they are madly in love with and intend to spend the rest of their life with. This brings me to ask “Would you call this selfish of men or would you say it’s their Legal Right?” If your answer is “Yes” to the formal, I ask you, do men do this because they believe they can get away with cheating or frolicking just because they are “men”? If your answer remains “Yes” to the latter, I ask you again, how is right for them to say their wife is untouchable to any man but them, yet, it is right for them to touch that of another and in the process cheat on their wife and expect their wife to be one hundred percent faithful to them. “Karma they say is a Big B****”


In most cases, men are known to end their relationships or marriage the moment they find out their wife, girlfriend or fiancée is cheating or has cheated on them, regardless of how many times they have cheated on her. To a man it does not count that he has cheated countless number of times. In fact, cheating only starts to count when his spouse does this. Men are known to hardly forgive and continue such relationships this happens. I asked Tunde Omotosho, a childhood friend of mine why men hardly forgive in this case and he said “It’s an ego thing” it’s like she’s saying I can’t satisfy her enough, or I am not good enough in terms of TLC (Tender Love and Care) so she has to go get it elsewhere and it means she does not love me enough to remain faithful. Then I asked him “If ego is what is involved, don’t you feel you’ve bruised hers when u cheated or does disrespecting of ego only counts when it’s a man that’s the victim? He just gave me a funny look……lolls.


 In other cases, some men react angrily and even become violent towards the woman or towards the furniture’s and fittings at home. Some men even break down in tears or lose their sanity for a while; in fact, it kills some part of their libido or enthusiasm to carry out their usual daily activities. When I asked another friend of mine Isaac Jonah, why men hardly forgive and react same and he said to me “it’s just the way we are wired up?” Then I asked him “Are you saying men are wired up to cheat but not wired up to forgive when their spouse does same?” To me it sounds like saying Men cheating or frolicking is not a crime when men commit it but when it is their woman or companion then it is wrong and an abomination or unforgiveable to them and the society at large. Which brings me to ask, what makes it seem right for a man and wrong for a woman? What happened to the saying “Want for your partner what you want for yourself” Can someone tell me WHY MEN CHEAT? Do share your views……………… Azizat Usman.

"I Am Adam" Series 2

........Hehehehe! You remember that uncle of mine I talked about in the last episode, he suprised me when he came in. He was talking about a party where all the Big Boys & Big Girls in the oil and gas industry will be in attendance. We drove down in his Prado Jeep down to a coded location around Lekki express way. From the house to the location, my uncle smoked 2packets of Malboro. Did I mention he drinks too? But guess what, he doesn't womanize. Only that women chase him a lot. I have learnt something from him. He keeps saying, "Adam, work Hard but work Smarter. Don't look at women now, when you are successful, they will come calling". I thought he was just being philosophical until the babes I would go after on my legs would leave me when guy who had a car came around . That was in my 1st year in the university though, my 2nd year was a revenge.


Back to Eva, she rushed to me and kissed me passionately. I just stood there frozen like a chicken, being a novice at it, and it was my first time, I carried along! She was giving me instructions on how to kiss her , her neck, her ears and before I could say jack, she dragged me to her room and I obliged like a ram about to be sacrificed. She put her hands in my pants. As at then it used to be pants , not the boxer trends of now. She whispered into my ears ; you have a fine 'Kokoro'. I just couldn't say anything, remember I was the student, and she was the teacher. She undressed herself like she was stripping, Got to know about that word 'stripper' in secondary school when some friends and I used to embark on fiery escapades to a strippers club. Details of that event, later. Then I saw two naked peanuts, I would not say they were fully grown breasts, but they were still growing, fresh, smooth and spicy. She said touch my breast! I was shaking as I made way towards the "Twin Towers". Immediately she grabbed my hands and placed it on both 'Manchesters'. She said I should squeeze them, Mistakenly I pinched them and she moaned with pleasure and a little pain. As I was going through this 8unit course, Susan, Eva's sister was knocking on the door. She told me to continue and not mind her. She pecked my neck and was kissing me from up till down. At intervals, she asked Do you like it? I just grinned. Susan kept knocking with force, this time, continously. Eva finally stood up reluctantly and dashed to the door.



When the door was finally open for her, Susan was naked. Did she know what we were doing? Was this event planned? I had no idea. Susan's Manchesters were bigger and like ripe oranges . My eyes were popping out like I was seeing something new, which I was anyway. Eva walked towards susan and they were speaking their local language. From their countenance, someone was not happy. While they were busy with their discussion, I was putting on my clothes back. Susan looked at my direction and coughed, Eva turned too. As if it was planned, both of them pounced on me and I was back to being the same as I was born. They ordered me to lay down, which I did and they tied my hands. Was I not supposed to scream? Yell? Or shout for help? I didn't , I wanted to see the end of the thriller . As Eva was about coming on the bed , it was a bunk. Eva the older sister slept up, while Susan slept down. I liked Susan's lips better but I prefered Eva's body and I could handle her peanuts better.Just as we were Kissing, We heard a knock! We ignored, we heard the knocks coming in faster and more regular. This is Serious Gobe oh!


Watchout for the next episode, My Uncle and I just arrived at the venue. Mehn, we used a password to enter the mansion oh! Lots of Exotic Cars at the venue. In Fact, Our Prado Jeep was like a cab where the likes of G-Wagon, Range Vouge, Rolls Royce and Ferrari were Parked at the Venue. If you were not invited, you would not know the password . Except someone like my uncle brought you. By the way, I see Babes, Barbecues & Drinks everywhere!

N.B - Fiction

"I Am Adam (The Series) 001".

Hi, my name is Adam .that’s all you need to know for now. Subsequently, you will know more. I was born with a silver spoon; I would not lie about that. I had several toys, shoes, clothes, in short, I was spoilt with the good things of life. I attended a private nursery & primary school. I can’t vividly remember all the scenarios I had while growing up, but sit back relax and take a chill pill as I reveal the adventures of Adam episode by episode.

I want to tell you about my first contact with a woman. I can’t remember the exact age then, but I was definitely in primary school! YES I was, don’t be surprised, there is this notion that most of us who attended private schools are spoilt brats. Well I intend to debate that some other day.
Life was, and is still rosy for me. Though, I have had ups and downs, but its all a part of the making, that’s life for you. We were so exposed to so many things then, when I mean us, I meant most of the people who would later unfold in this series. Some had its advantages while some had its disadvantages.

Eva! Eva! Eva!!!!! I had to exclaim that name thrice. You see, Eva used to be my neighbour back then along with her sister Susan. If there was anyone who introduced me to bad things, or let’s say the first bad thing, I would say it was Eva. I knew how to use my short thing back then thanks to Eva. Although it’s a "LONG THING" now. After school hours then, I and my brother Steve will go to their apartment to cool off as our parents were not usually around. We sometimes had lunch at their place. Their mum was always around because she was also a teacher. By the time we were all well fed, she would order us to bring out our assignments with a cane...you dare not disobey her; I left out the fact that she was a lefty. We would quickly and accurately finish our assignments, she also made sure she crosschecked, else its dooms day for us. Back then I was a very good boy in class and at home. I never had the 1st position, I know! And I don’t intend to tell my children lies of how I became 1st from primary till secondary school. You know such is the trend now. I was above average then. There was a time I came 4th (I t turned out to be my best holiday at home, I was so spoilt with gifts and care).

Back to Eva, this babe looked like Eva Mendes my CRUSH OF LIFE. I would say there are only 3 women I know that look like Eva Mendes. As you can see, I am not a womanizer. Just three women alone. Eva was epic, soothing voice that sounded like a very good ringtone back then. I used to be very innocent then, Very innocent like Innocent Idibia.
Then came this UNLUCKY day, or perhaps it was my lucky day. We were at her place, the four of us. We were all alone, her mum had cooked spaghetti with sardines and boiled eggs for us and we had maltina chilling for us in the fridge. The truth is Eva’s mum could cook!!!. Her delicacies were always DELICATE to the nose and mouth. We were eating when all of a sudden THE lights came back on. Did I mention that it went off when it we came back from school? Eva opened the television; yes she opened the television, if you are between the ages of 24 – 35. You would understand the kind of television I am referring to Televisions that had two legs and was like a cupboard or let’s say shelve where 50 rats could hide. Thank goodness for technology now. Unknown to us, Eva innocently pressed the play button in the video cassette player or the video player played automatically, cant really phantom it, because it was indicating that a cassette was in it.
That was how for the first time in our lives we saw a “MOJO”. Some call it “MJ”. Some call it “ADVANCED FILM”. Our uncles used to call it “BLUE FILM”. Right here before our own very eyes, we were SHOCKED, DUMBFOUNDED and SURPRISED. Sorry Guys, one of my Uncles that used to call it “BLUE FILM” just stepped in now and today is Friday. It’s like he brought some goodies, he just came back from a business trip in Germany. Stay Tuned for the Next Episode.
N.B - FICTION.

SIR ALEX FERGUSON " The Great ".

Sir Alex was and is Still a Great Manager. He won so many titles, total of 49. From 1976 in St Mirren where he won 1 trophy to 1979 in Aberden where he won 10 trophies and to his last and greatest achievements at Manchester United in1986- May 8 , 2013 where he won an astonishing 38 trophies. This man has given most, if not his entire life to football. This is a man who also had a playing career before taking up coaching.

I believe he should be celebrated. In fact, he's the reason why I decided to write sport articles, though I had nursed the ambition but postponed it till today. Thanks To Sir Alex , We have seen names like Peter Schmichaels, Eric Cantona,Roy Keane, Ole Gonner Solksjaer, Paul Scholes, David Beckham, Ryan Giggs, Wayne Rooney, Cristiano. Ronaldo and Van Nisterooy. From The Come Back upset of 1999 against Bayern and Clinching United's Title from their Noisy Neighbours with the super signing of Robin Van Persie. This man did it the 20th title for United with the Number 20 jersey wearing Man. All good Things Come to an End Truly! Thank You Sir Alex Ferguson.

N.B( I am not a United Fan)

"My EX my nEXt -The Chronicles of Cindy"

Cindy is what you would call an Epitome of beauty, general edifice, total endowment and a lovely character to behold around you. Be you male or female. Asides an over average height which she didn’t have, she can be ascribed ‘The FULL PACKAGE’. Apart from the few "metres in longitude" (reminds me of geography), she makes sense, and "her head is there". While we were in Ibadan, the NYSC officials also took interest in her. They wanted her for keeps individually, so you could imagine the psychological and sometimes the verbal brawls between them all for a lady named CINDY. “CINDY OF LIFE”.


Sometime after leaving the compulsory youth service, I stumbled into Cindy this faithful day at KFC Ring Road Ibadan .for those of us who know Ibadan very well. By the way, it wasn’t far from where I stayed before. Sometimes when a bachelor can’t lay hands on food at home, he just strolls down or sometimes bike down to get the stomach satisfied. I had become a regular customer that almost all the attendants knew me. That was then though no more free money from government and besides as a corper then, ZENITH Bank gave my profile a boost. Back then, being the Very Good Guy I was and still am, I was contemplating sending my RESUME to her so we could date. We used to talk back on camp and after camp, but I was so busy with BANK work, CDS activities which I was privileged to be the P.R.O. and Ican Lessons.



I was always busy from Sunday to Sunday!!! She was flowing along with me back then but as I stated earlier, I barely had her time, which I admit on my part as a weakness. I always was procrastinating about seeing her. Have you ever wanted something, and you kept on postponing it?, that was my situation back then. Recently I bumped into her and we caught up on old times. After some hours, the talk started getting deeper. I inquired about her relationship all these while, she opened her seductive lips to speak, while I had so many bells ringing through my mind as I focused solely on them as she spoke. As I gazed through her face and into her eyes, I noticed she was trying to hold back tears. Swiftly, I offered her my handkerchief; usually I always was with an extra. Then she began narrating;



I met this guy in IB, he was working in the same place where I served and still working,...Go on I said. It’s complicated she replied, but you know I won’t give up on you; I will not stop till you tell me what you wanted to say. I insisted and she let it all out, it turned out that there was someone else who the guy was dating before they met. That’s the guy’s EX-Girlfriend. But she didn’t really know the full story because as at that time they were not dating, and “sparks been flying”, it was all I ever wanted, it turned out that after a while, she came back begging him. He was torn in between. But for the fact that they had come a long way, “HE LEFT ME FOR HIS EX”. Then I asked about him, and she said; he has been transferred to Abuja. I pressed further, where does the Ex stay? Abuja, she answered me with a gloomy look. I didn’t even know when I exclaimed ‘CHAI,(LOBATAN)’.


I would not want to bore you with the full story; it could take days to conclude. Having analyzed this scenario inductively and deductively with a clear head, I would like to state here that CINDY’s case is not that she wasn't good enough, or that she wasn't beautiful or any man’s dream, but she was/is a victim of circumstance. The dude she was with still had affection and was still emotionally attached to his Ex. That is why, when some people break-up; they could take a whole year sometimes more than that before they start seeing someone else, depending on their emotional stronghold. Some of us can bear the shock for some months and move on, while others cannot.



What is the essence of passing your own problems to another, or transfer your disappointment to someone else? If you are not over someone, do you necessarily need to use someone as spare? I can wager on my money that if the dude came back, she might accept him, after being used and dumped. Why? It is because she too isn’t over him, there is still an attachment. I have not given the idea of office dating a thought though, because of its disadvantages.
As it stands now, CINDY is probably lonely, disappointed, dejected and filled with rage. She probably would be asking herself, Why Me?
From little experience, the next dude coming along will bear the whole consequence of her last break-up. Call it transferred aggression, the innocent guy wouldn’t know, it is an action she might carry out without even knowing she is doing, thereby subjecting another person who in turns subjects someone else to physical and emotional torture. It then becomes a vicious circle, transferring from one person to another. We may now begin to ask ourselves when we find out that we are victims of such, alas someone somewhere, somehow invented it and it started infecting others like a disease and by the time we realize everyone has caught the virus, and it might even become a norm.


The dude who left her is not absolved of blame too. What was he thinking? See what James Bond has led someone too. Maybe if I was the one I might have acted differently or might have done likewise? You never can tell. May we not be used as spare keys or substitute.
The most recent is the coinage of the term "Side-chic" more like a stand-by generating set, once the "Original" flops, a switch over o the next occurs. Well that's for the guys, ladies too have their own terminologies, I won't mind you educating me and other readers here.
As for me, it is obvious that "CINDY WAS ONLY KEEPING THAT DUDE BUSY" till the time was right to re-unite with 'the original idea'
Side-chic, Back-up plan, Substitute, Alternative, Generator, Plan B, C...Z, and every other terminologies used to describe this heart-chattering game. Considering Cindy's story, and many others (maybe personal experiences even) **Deep Sigh**

What do you think?
Where does Cindy, or any other victim like her, and even you and i, go from here?
We've got to be candid in our views.

N.B - THE NAME CINDY IS FICTIONAL. THE STORY IS NON-FICTION.

'All Men Are dogs' .!!!!

Kindly pardon the slanderous statement. It has never been my intention to degrade MEN to as low as comparing them to Dogs. After all, am a man the last time I checked. Taking a cue from Tina, she said and also stood her ground that 'all men are dogs'. What would have made her utter such statement? Events unfolding suggested that she was hurt beyond her limits i assumed, beyond her comprehension.



 I met henry some months back when he came on an official assignment at our office. He had this look on his face like an Angel as he made inquiries from the receptionist. His voice wasn’t that deep; it was like that of Michael Jackson!!! It made me speechless.



As I made way towards the dispenser to get a cup of water, I realized that the she could not adequately give this angelic face what he needed. Swiftly, I voluntarily stepped in and I was able to attend to him and he was satisfied with the response he got from me. When he was about leaving, he requested for my number which I refused blatantly as I became more official. He sensed that i would not bulge to his request and as that time, a ping came in from my black berry, being a smart guy; he opted for my pin which I gladly gave. After all, I could decide not to accept or could delete him at a later date, but none of this was to happen.



Henry was very funny and could make you laugh your heart out. We chatted regularly and I didn’t even know when I threw caution to the wind and gave him my number, what else could a woman ask for from a man if not happiness? When we are together, I always laughed to the point that I forgot the harsh economic conditions of the country, his arms were a safe haven where there was never a need to worry. Before I could say jack, we were already seeing each other (DATING).



I was at work on a faithfully day when his call came in and he said “caramel”, his pet name for me after some months of constant dating that he was heading home from an assignment he had embarked upon to Abeokuta at work. Usually I would head to his place at night and sometimes pass the night there, but I was so anxious to see him because he had been away for awhile that I closed early that sad day and rushed to his place before closure of work.



As I got to his compound, I sensed a negative atmosphere, something was just not right, even his neighbors who usually didn’t greet me, greeted me scornfully but I shrugged it off. I went on to his apartment only to hear moaning and groaning. At first, I felt he was up to his pornographic movies again and I shook my head for him. But as I got closer to the window, I saw an opening, alas; henry was on another woman with passion and energy to the extent that their bodies were vibrating. I felt cold and also heated up at the same time, I had goose pimples. I was stricken, shocked and was in wonderland. I lost my memory for a while; I thought I was in a movie theatre. I didn’t know how I had the courage to sit down on the floor and I couldn’t cry out but deep inside I was bleeding.



He and the lady came out after they were done. He saw me outside and he was shocked, astonished and short of words. He went on to see the lady off. Imagine, he still had the guts to that extent. He came back and begged me to the point of confusion. I was crying my heart out at this point. Such a disgusting fellow, disrespectful and no regard for me I said to myself yet, this was a guy I satisfied his sexual urge or so I thought. I am from Akwa Ibom, and I know how to pamper and when it comes to room matters, I am a machine she said. I left him and told him never to call me again. He still keeps calling, but since that faithful day, I have come to the conclusion that “ALL MEN ARE DOGS”.

'All Men Are Dogs'

"ALL MEN ARE DOGS"
Kindly pardon the slanderous statement. It has never been my intention to degrade MEN to as low as comparing them to Dogs. After all, am a man the last time I checked. Taking a cue from Tina, she said and also stood her ground that 'all men are dogs'. What would have made her utter such statement? Events unfolding suggested that she was hurt beyond her limits i assumed, beyond her comprehension.



 I met henry some months back when he came on an official assignment at our office. He had this look on his face like an Angel as he made inquiries from the receptionist. His voice wasn’t that deep; it was like that of Michael Jackson!!! It made me speechless.



As I made way towards the dispenser to get a cup of water, I realized that the she could not adequately give this angelic face what he needed. Swiftly, I voluntarily stepped in and I was able to attend to him and he was satisfied with the response he got from me. When he was about leaving, he requested for my number which I refused blatantly as I became more official. He sensed that i would not bulge to his request and as that time, a ping came in from my black berry, being a smart guy; he opted for my pin which I gladly gave. After all, I could decide not to accept or could delete him at a later date, but none of this was to happen.



Henry was very funny and could make you laugh your heart out. We chatted regularly and I didn’t even know when I threw caution to the wind and gave him my number, what else could a woman ask for from a man if not happiness? When we are together, I always laughed to the point that I forgot the harsh economic conditions of the country, his arms were a safe haven where there was never a need to worry. Before I could say jack, we were already seeing each other (DATING).



I was at work on a faithfully day when his call came in and he said “caramel”, his pet name for me after some months of constant dating that he was heading home from an assignment he had embarked upon to Abeokuta at work. Usually I would head to his place at night and sometimes pass the night there, but I was so anxious to see him because he had been away for awhile that I closed early that sad day and rushed to his place before closure of work.



As I got to his compound, I sensed a negative atmosphere, something was just not right, even his neighbors who usually didn’t greet me, greeted me scornfully but I shrugged it off. I went on to his apartment only to hear moaning and groaning. At first, I felt he was up to his pornographic movies again and I shook my head for him. But as I got closer to the window, I saw an opening, alas; henry was on another woman with passion and energy to the extent that their bodies were vibrating. I felt cold and also heated up at the same time, I had goose pimples. I was stricken, shocked and was in wonderland. I lost my memory for a while; I thought I was in a movie theatre. I didn’t know how I had the courage to sit down on the floor and I couldn’t cry out but deep inside I was bleeding.



He and the lady came out after they were done. He saw me outside and he was shocked, astonished and short of words. He went on to see the lady off. Imagine, he still had the guts to that extent. He came back and begged me to the point of confusion. I was crying my heart out at this point. Such a disgusting fellow, disrespectful and no regard for me I said to myself yet, this was a guy I satisfied his sexual urge or so I thought. I am from Akwa Ibom, and I know how to pamper and when it comes to room matters, I am a machine she said. I left him and told him never to call me again. He still keeps calling, but since that faithful day, I have come to the conclusion that “ALL MEN ARE DOGS”.

"AniMan"-(The Heights of Jealousy).

Everyone has the tendency of being Jealous. We guard our precious properties, loved ones and accessories with jealousy. People mistake jealousy for envy. I would not like to dwell on that. Some people can be so jealous, that they act way out of line. The recent occurrences I have been reading of in the dailies and on the internet have been very scary.

Not quite long, I read in the dailies of a man who was so overtaken by jealousy because his girlfriend was seeing other men and decided after issuing much warning to her to desist from such acts, to bathe her with acid. The pictures I set my eyes on were HORRIFIC. I need not explain in details the extent at which the woman’s body was damaged, it looked damaged beyond repair.
You could call it THE DEVOURER, it won't be able to qualify the acid. The lady is partially blind; her body had been ripped off like it went through the process of smelting in the iron ore industry. Her mouth had been disfigured, her face? You don't want to go there. Her close friends couldn’t recognize her and I barely could look at the lady .it looked like something from a horror movie. The most annoying thing is, the alleged man who committed this act is said to have absconded and the police are yet to apprehend him (as usual).

The second scenario was a lady who used scissors to cut her boyfriend’s manhood. Eeeew, chaiiiiii !!! While writing this, I checked if mine was still intact, O Yes, It is still intact! Sighs!!! . Being a man, you wouldn’t blame me I did, would you? A man’s manhood, what could be left to live for? The man was rushed to the hospital and the doctors did all they could to save the situation. He had stitches here and there, but was told he might not be able to impregnate a woman again. As expected, she is also at large. Words on the street have it that, she had been warning the guy for so long, but he wouldn’t budge. So she said she was going to teach him a lesson he would never forget.

I am not in support of what either of them did to their spouse, but if you look around you, I am of the opinion that the society we live in has much to do with the way we think, act and react to issues. An average Nigerian is frustrated that unconsciously he/she is wired to act like a “WILD ANIMAL”. Pardon the description.


Then I ask myself, why you would profess likeness or love to someone and after a while, (even if he or she is cheating on you), you decided to "teach them a lesson", by taking laws and judgment into your hands.
What happened to walking away with pride and keeping your head up? There are so many women, likewise so many men for one to rather stick with a man/woman whose anger or sense of reasoning is nothing to write home about. FLEE from such people, even if they are friends. IMAGINE THE TRAUMA, HATE, REGRET, DISAPPOINTMENT, RESENTMENT, SADNESS, ANGUISH, PAIN & EMOTIONAL TORTURE these victims would be going through at the moment.
Lastly, if the laws of the land (although am not fully aware of such) is silent or not doing enough to make and implement these laws to the fullest. Perhaps there is a law, to what extent has it been enforced? If yes, to what extent have the perpetrators been persecuted?
I am of the opinion that the sale of ACIDS be banned with only concessions made to the medical practitioners or scientists registered with authorized regulatory bodies, making them fully responsible and accountable.
I've got more to share with you on this series, I'll just love that we attend to them in a step-wise manner. Watchout for the follow up to this article, until then, How do we deal with this Animal in man?
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"Whom Do I Abort?" (Abortion Saga)

A young female friend of mine met a guy 18 months back; they decided getting serious 9 months ago notwithstanding the age difference of 15 years and their constant disagreements over trivial issues. After some months, the babe met another guy at the cinemas, tall, handsome, averagely built, good sense of humour, focused and career oriented, he was what you could call “SENT FROM HEAVEN”. The look in his eyes alone could make a woman quiver and the tone in his voice made her tremble with affection. He was a perfect gentleman. Every woman’s dream. Yet he was all alone at the cinemas.

Then she quickly recalled back her senses as she was lost fantasizing about so many things. As fate would have it the guy made a pass at her and she couldn’t help but respond to his advances. They got talking even up till the end of the movie which they saw together.

He was so attentive, calm and very sensitive to her plight. The good thing was that, he was a lot younger and seemed so perfect for her. Things happened so fast, they started seeing and the babe along the line (opened up about her other relationship) but refused talking about it because she wanted to keep the seemingly “perfect guy” probably with the hope that the other serious dude would naturally fizzle out with time. The “perfect guy” was very patient with her. After all, she willingly admitted being in another affair without much probing. The new guy played down on it, waved a white flag, Though, he refused getting serious with her, they still kept seeing each other and could barely do without one another in a day.

Alas, the unexpected happened. The result of unprotected sex “PREGNANCY”. She took in for the so called “IMPERFECT GUY”, the one she wanted to discard. She decided to admit as usual to the “THE PERFECT GUY” that she was pregnant and the pregnancy wasn’t his, but with the request that he permitted her to abort the pregnancy. Complicated right?

The “imperfect guy” wants her to keep the pregnancy and he is even ready to marry her in weeks to come. She disclosed all these to the “PERFECT GUY”. The perfect guy on his own part said he wanted things serious all along but because of her relationship with the other guy. He decided to take things slower and stated that he also wants to marry her too but on the condition she had an abortion. The lady seems to be in a dilemma as both men are really serious.

Looking at this peculiar scenario from another angle objectively, let me state that, I have never been in support of abortion as I consider it a crime. Why would you want to kill what you can’t create? After all she knew all along that unprotected sex could lead to pregnancy. The other guy who owns the pregnancy ought to have sensed or know that the lady does not intend to spend her life with him, if he wants a baby and she doesn’t and for the fact that he has proposed marriage. If she goes ahead to abort the baby, what is the guarantee that the other perfect guy would marry her? I am trying to put myself in the perfect guy’s shoes and to imagine my actions. I would hands off the lady to let her decide what to do with the pregnancy after all its her life, I would not want to put myself in a situation where she would point fingers at me in the nearest future that I made her do what she did not want to do. What happens if after the abortion the womb is damaged? What happens after our marriage she cannot give birth? Will I be ready to face all these with her? The situation is dicey and we could go on and on debating about this. Then I ask myself, But who am I to start giving lessons on it. After all, I have never been in that situation before right? So many arguments and objections from left and right. But I decided to share this with you all so that we could put heads together, reason and proffer solutions. What are your thoughts on this? Urgent help is needed as your advices will go along way (via your comments).
WHAT WILL YOU DO? WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE FOR HER? IF YOU WERE ANY OF THE 3? WHAT WILL YOU DO?
KINDLY DROP YOUR OPINIONS BELOW. THANK YOU.