LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

                                                               LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

"How is your Girlfriend?" I asked my friend. 

"we no longer roll together" he replied, my utmost surprise. 

After the surprise sunk in, the first words that came to my mind which I made him realize, was that he could not manage fame and relationships.

"You are letting it get to your head right? You are feeling like a star? I will spank you now" I said jokingly.

Then he replied: "Bro it is not like that ooh, for the records, she broke up with me."

I had to ask again to be sure, which he confirmed. "she just started acting funny all of a sudden when she started rolling with a particular girl on campus (UNILAG)."

My response was: "Ooh, she is the 'my friend type', those we call the follow !follow!!. A lady who waits on her friends for advice."

In other words, she has no mind of her own. My first thought about this was that his girlfriend’s friend might have liked him or she wanted that type of relationship but could not have it, then decided to break the one that was prospering. I made him understand my point.

He sighed deeply and said: “She scatter the thing well well ooh”, I could not help but burst out in laughter. I laughed so much not because I wanted to make jest of him, but deep down I felt for him and the issue has gone past getting sad all over on.

I made a joke of the girl being an “OGBANJE”; referring to his Ex-girlfriend’s friend.

Those who delight in Nollywood understands the reasoning perfectly. They believe in witchcrafts from their village is responsible for every and any problem they face.

He screamed in response saying: “MY GUY, THE GIRL YELLOW LIKE OGBANJE TRULY OH”.

Apologies to the light skinned people, we don't have any intention of undermining your beauty or attach any spirituality to your complexion. You are beautiful and its true “In James Blunt Voice”.

Then, he went further: “GUY NA WAOH THE BABE DO ME STRONG THING, I JUST DO LIKE SEY E NO PAIN ME, BUT E PAIN ME DIE”. 

Speaking of Heartbreaks, you could easily tell that this dude loved her like there was no tomorrow. He went on to say a little: "if I tell you wetin happen ehn, you no go believe.". As an inquisitive guy, I probed on for more and he did oblige.  He said the girl offended him, but he was the one begging her in order to save the relationship because he felt he had lost something important to him. It's really disheartening when things like these happens, but it's part of life though.

I witnessed a scenario on his birthday, which we celebrated within our circle as friends. He was so time conscious, eager to run back to UNILAG in order to spend some time with her. She kept on calling him, flashing, texting..... but I do not want to bore you with the details.

My little advice was for him to try forgetting about her and move on. I had been in a similar situation as his, where I was miserable and had since moved on. Then, being the loving man that I was, I did everything I could before eventually accepting defeat. I told him to take her back if she came calling - if he truly loves her.

He threw it back majestically, saying: “I LOVE HER BUT LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH”.  My ears stood like that of a Hare ready to run a race. I decided to listen more which should be a Man’s good trait anyways. "Love is not enough my friend, there are other things which ENCAPSULATE into a solid relationship" he opined. He then went on and on about his definition, "Love is just like an 8 unit course out of a 6 course form in a particular semester you are supposed to take in order to scale through". Here is my friend sounding PHILOSOPHICAL, As if he knew I was going to write about it, He told me, write that down somewhere, PHEEL said so.

Being a learner in the matters of the heart, I asked him what the other units were. He thus listed them saying:

   1.  TRUST

   2.  COMPATIBILITY

   3.  UNDERSTANDING

   4.  INTIMACY

   5.  COMMUNICATION

Guess what, LOVE is the only independent factor. That is what makes it the greatest, but all other Factors are dependent variables. We might go on and on but it doesn't help the argument one bit. 

There might be subsequent series to treat this topic again.

N.B. Big ups to PHEEL.  By the way, DEAR READERS, HOW WAS YOUR VALENTINE?  LOL……..CIAO