Wednesday, June 19, 2013

" Ten Commandments of SEXINESS"(Male)

Nota Bien: I didn't give you these tips oh! The blog did! I only presented it. I don't want any lady chasing me about that I did them "strong thing"! So sit back and relax. Strictly for MEN!!! If you are a woman, please navigate your way back. Lol

Sexy Man Tip #1. Be Relaxed And Chill

The best state for meeting women is actually a chilled out, relaxed state, and not a hyper state where you're bouncing off the walls super excited or freaking out.

The best state for meeting women isn't extravagant. It's just relaxed and chill. Because talking to a girl being all relaxed and chill communicates to her that you're not desperate to please her or kiss her butt or get her approval. It shows her that you're normal and confident.

And the best way to be relaxed and chill is to draw your state from within. You're positive and relaxed from within no matter what's going around you or what the girls are doing. So if a girl gives you a positive response, you just remain relaxed and chill, just as if she were to give you a negative response. You remain un reactive to the ups and downs in the environment. You're steady like a rock. And that's what women want to find in a man.

Sexy Man Tip #2. Don't Apologize For Your Actions

Don't apologize for your actions. When you go up to a girl, or you grab her hand, or you give her a hug, or you give her a compliment, or whatever it is, follow through with your actions and don't apologize for your actions.

Being un-apologetic is the key to getting away with any move, and to get the girl reacting to you. Let's say you make the move,by kissing her and she frowns at it, Mr man do not apologize, you heard, Apology means you did not know what you were doing or you are not sure of yourself! Sometimes, being BOLD to make the move is key. Even if you don't get the desired results. At least, you are 5steps ahead.

Sexy Man Tip #3. Speak Loudly!

Speak Loudly! The loudest guy in the group is typically the guy who has the most social value, who is the leader, who is looked to for leadership, who is the most comfortable guy in a social situation, who is the most confident guy. Because if you're not confident, you won't be talking, let alone talking very loudly. Loudness is a cue for confidence, and girls love it. P.S - loudness denotes bravery, confidence and Charisma. I didn't say you should be a Lousy and noisy type oh! Spot the difference.

Sexy Man Tip #4. Demonstrate Sexual Intent

You want to convey sexual intent to the girl. When you just pretend to play aloof, or you completely hide your sexual interest from the girl, she'll just assume that you're not a sexual guy or you're not interested in her sexually, or you're just a nice guy. By hiding your sexual interest, it ensures that you'll be liked, but it doesn't create any sparks of attraction in the girl. In order words, you have been FRIEND ZONED. Why keep female friends when you don't want to? Don't dull oh!

Instead, you want to convey sexual intent to the girl by showing her in some way, that you have sexual interest in her, that you see her as a sexual woman. Like you can be talking to her normally, but you massage her back. Or you throw up a compliment in the very beginning. Or you hold eye contact and talk slow and sexy. Something that conveys sexual interest and intent.

And that tells the woman that you're confident enough to go after her. And that's what a woman wants to see in a man, confidence to go for what he wants.

Sexy Man Tip #5. Draw Your state From Within

Go out for yourself. And draw your happiness from within yourself. Don't look to women to make you happy. If you need girls on any level to make you happy or feed your ego, that's going to create approach anxiety. Because you have an outcome in mind that you need the girls approval to make you feel good. And that's where you get nervous.

So instead, draw your state within, let go of the outcomes, and your approach anxiety will melt away and you'll feel happier and more fulfilled.

Sexy Man Tip #6. You Like Silences

Be comfortable with silences. Normal conversations will have silences. If you feel like you have to keep talking non-stop to avoid any silences, or to cover up any silences, the girl will notice that and it comes across as nervous and frantic. Silences in fact are a good way to create sexual tension, by talking slowly and making eye contact during the silence, that's where sexual tension can be created. Bang! Make the move Idiot!

Sexy Man Tip #7. It's Okay To Lose

You're not going to win every time and you've got to be cool that. But the times you don't win, you'll learn.

If you're out there taking action, taking responsibility to go out, learning and achieving things, you'll progress. You won't win every time, but you'll achieve. And when you learn and you win and you go, you feel good about yourself, you feel congruent with being a man of action.

Because the worst thing you can do is do nothing with your time and just watch TV or play video games. Because the time will pass and your opportunities will be lost. Do you know how many babes have bounced me? Right from Abeogramms to Unilag? But I kept on moving because Experience is key! It has made me calmer and smoother! Let's say Smooth criminal. *Winks*

Sexy Man Tip #8. Physically Escalate

Physically escalate! You can be the best conversationalist in the world, by funny, be interesting… but that only makes you "cute", it doesn't make you sex worthy attractive to women. Women get sexually attracted and wet between their legs when you TOUCH them. So you need a touch escalation sequence, like hugging the girl, taking her hands, spinning her, whispering into her ear, etc. Oga, just touch! Anywhere, anyhow just touch if you can't make moves...Touch! Touch! Touch! Keep Touching!!!

Sexy Man Tip #9. Let Her Game You Back!

If you're just gaming on the gaming, gaming on the girl, but the girl doesn't game you, you're not going to have sex with her!

You've got to get the girl to chase after you at least part of the time. And you get the girl gaming you in the bonding and rapport stage where you transition into a 50/50 give and take talking ratio. This is where you can ask her questions about herself and you're getting to know the real girl. And she'll ask questions about you, and that in itself is a basic form of the girl gaming you.

Of using push pull physically to push her away, and allow her to step back into the space to touch you back.

And the more she finds herself gaming you, the more she'll find herself liking you and you're that much closer to her sleeping with you.

If I chase a girl constantly for at least a month ! And she doesn't chase back, I simply abandon her! What the hell? Who's she? What's she feeling like? Abeg move on Jaare! You will spend money and time, so who's going to loose?

Sexy Man Tip #10. Be Authentic

Make your conversations real and authentic. A topic I've been covering quite a bit in past lessons. Basically speak about whatever YOU want to speak about it so it seems real and authentic and you're not trying to kiss the girl's ass or trying to impress her and you're not going inside your head for "the right thing to say". And besides, the more real you are, the more balls that takes and the girl likes it, it tells her that you talk to beautiful girls all the time and you're not freaked out by it. Don't be a Dolapooooo !

N.B---- maybe I am spoilt or crazy or a brat! All that matters is am sharing with you all! Guys...Man up!!!

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I will gladly as a lady be the first to comment.......#1 what is 'oga just touch anywhere anyhow????! Wrong choice of words... :|
Trust me, touch me and my claws wiLl find a home on your face... :)

Unknown said...

Wrong choice too babe , slap a guy and u never can tell his reaction , temperament or further deliberate actions, things might just get ugly........u are talking to him means u wanna listen to what he has to say, and one of his words became ......emotional........became........touch. So as a normal question da can be thrown out in any conversation, u just simply say no with other deliberate and well tot after gentlemanly gentlemanneris definitely not a rash action......as advisable it is for a man not to lay a hand on any female folk, so it is d other way round too.

The Wordsmith said...

Wow tips really! By the way of addition winning a lady over is solely a matter of your own creativity, proper study of your "opponent's"('cos it starts out as a game) nature, and your ingenuity to relay your messages (words n body) without stirring misconceptions.
Tip no1 is my no1.

Anonymous said...

I get ur point but if anyone feels the need to touch my ass for instance just cause he wants to feel sexy, and I dint send him message then ,I'm not just hitting him for fun I'm defending myself and the respect required from the 'male folk' :)

Anonymous said...

I like the factthat u added 'without stirring misconceptions' cause that's the case most times

Gbolex said...

Well for me personally....I feel if u wanna go after a lady u just av to be a gentleman...b original and be fun....u can't expect a boriing guy to walk up to a girl and expect to catch her attention not to talk of even getting sexual wit her....ladies luv funny guys,guys who can make dem laff and forget bout any issues dey probably had up in their head allday....so d first point shuld even b communication...u will find so many not so sexy looking guys wit very sexy girls and guess wat....dats cos the guy is sexy in a very funny way and she feel comfortable wit him around...so first tinz first...guys,learn ow to make ur lady laugh and she is 90% urs alrdy.....

Anonymous said...

@gbolex I'm a lady and Im tripping for u already. :D ur point is exactly a very key point
Being funny is soooo fun and fortunately very sexy, we ladies love to put on our best smiles and laughing styles. Its our best part of any convo with a guy who fancies us. Thanks for that reminder

Unknown said...

Why is d lady, so anonymous....either she's hiding something or she doesn't want d world to know her true self. Or tell how she thrives or blushes under real situations