"ABORTION-Saga and Opinions"

Abortion is the termination of a pregnancy by the removal or expulsion from the uterus of a foetus or embryo before viability. An abortion can occur spontaneously, in which case it is often called a miscarriage, or it can be purposely induced. The term abortion most commonly refers to the induced abortion of a human pregnancy. After viability, the relevant procedure is referred to as a "late termination of pregnancy". (Source: Wikipedia)

Now, all the grammar has been constructed to clearly define this term. I was reading on nairaland recently where a dude posted a question on conversations bordering on abortion; asking his girlfriend whom he intends to settle down with, if she had ever had an ABORTION. For the sake of clarity, this is how he put it:

Hi All,
I finally met a girl that I intend to settle down with and I have made that intention clear to her, the thing is, I have certain standards that I want my wife to possess and I use a checklist to cross them out. Unfortunately these rules require probing personal questions. Basically, I asked her today if she has ever had abortion. And her response was "it's none of my business", "it's her body" and "I shouldn't be asking", she walked away mad without giving a response. Was it wrong to ask this question? Are there question/boundaries never to be crossed in a relationship?

He also noted that:

If her answer is yes- then it's over between us- we aren't married yet. And before you judge me, everyone has standards, whether it is moral, financial or physical, everyone does.

I believe she is aware of this outcome that is why she is refusing to respond.

Comments flew in left, right, up and down. First of all, what are standards? Standards are norms, conventions or requirements set by a body, company, institution or individuals. Now if an institution sets a cut off mark and some students intending to study there don't meet up, there is a chance that they would be dropped for those who did well, right? Now we are talking about one on one situation where you can lower your standards. For the purpose of clarity, THESE ARE MY PERSONAL OPINIONS and I might not be RIGHT .
Feel free to express yours after reading.

I believe I should be able to ask my woman anything or any question provided I would not judge her based on past experience. Now there would be or there comes a point in a relationship, especially with the aim of walking down the aisle, where it is important that the couple goes for counselling either in a place of worship or professional counsellors. The thing is it's rather easier and better to know the past of your spouse so that nothing comes as a surprise. I will rather let you be comfortable and free to the extent that you open up to me as my woman. I believe "Nobody is Holy" and imperfections are beautiful. Although, I have had my own share of bad experiences but I learned, and I am learning. I will love to know if she has had an abortion before, because nobody is above such mistakes, even me asking her, does she know if I have helped others have an abortion too? Which I haven't anyway; not that I am the sharpest in those situations. It's just that I have been lucky. What if she was raped and she had to abort? Or she was promised marriage and she had to abort when her ex pulled out? Or she was naive and she was taken advantage of? Or she was stupid, young and was in lust? Morally some would say its wrong, spiritually too, like wise some don't believe . Some would even say as long as its still in the blood level and the baby isn't formed yet. We can go on and on .

Now let me face the male species.

How many can say they haven't had wet dreams? Is that not the Outflow of sperm that turn into children wasted? How many can say they haven't masturbated before? How many can say they haven't watched porn before? How many can say they haven't flirted with another woman when they had theirs before? How many haven't kissed another woman while they had a girlfriend before? How many are still Male virgins? How many haven't been tempted? How many haven't been unfaithful? How many haven't lied? After all, is sin not sin? How many haven't given women advice or money for abortion? I can go on and on…

Hence my personal assertion and philosophy is:

"Nobody is Holy", if you are, cast the first stone. I'm not saying abortion is good but I'm just making us understand that the PAST, PRESENT and FUTURE make the whole package; there should be a balance else we'll just be circling the same spot. If not, please exit and let me be. Likewise if you cannot take her GARBAGE and her GOLD together, then let her leave. After all, we have very sharp variation in reason ability quotient between biological and adopted children which defiles whatever set rules we hang on to on blood being thicker than water because some adopted children do better than Biological ones .

To cut the story short, I WOULD TAKE HER AS SHE IS ' if she's the one for me because she 'would have' TAKEN ME AS I AM too.