W.W.W. What Women Want

Someone once said 'To generalize on women is dangerous. To specialize on them is infinitely worse'.

After much questions and answers, Research Work and Consulting the Love Doctors, Oracles, Wizards and Blogs and even the women themselves gave some of their opinions, we now know 'What Women Want'.

1. Respect.
 Show them through your actions that you respect their opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don't have to agree with all that they say or do, but try to honour their opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat them as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

2. Sex. 
Yes, they love sex. But, remember that there are four bases to cover in the bedroom, not just one (Consult me for more Coaching). Try stopping at each base instead of being so focused on the home run—believe it, they will thank you for it! Likewise, remember small physical touches like massages. Please who is up for a massage? One can never, ever, have too many shoulder rubs. And scratching their heads is pretty great, too.

3. Romance. 
It's another night on the couch? Just because they are staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat them like your girlfriend even after they become your wife. Date nights, making out in the car, kissing like first dates —all of the things that made them fall in love with us .we men don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids that need to get bathed.

4. Time. 
We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not take vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry?  If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big whole smooch when you come back.
 

5. Dinner. 
You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrestle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day. 
If it's that one because I don't like the kitchen, I will not mind buying stuffs so she can cook for her man.

6. Communication.
 Women are vocal creatures. THEY CAN TALK!!! They know you love them, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. They can also be insecure. They wish they weren't, but the reality is that they often notice their wobbly thighs and forget about their gorgeous eyes. So let them know when you think they are hot. Tell them they are beautiful. It helps them feel good. Plus, when they feel sexy they are more likely to act sexy. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Thank them for driving the kids to school. Notice that they cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let them know that you see the effort they put in, and you're grateful. Use words like Please Dupe pass me the key or please tidy the bed. After she has, simply say Thank you. I have imbibed that culture. My mother will send you on an errand and still tell you thank you, despite the fact that she has 100% right to send us errands while we were younger. Even till this day. She says "THANK YOU".

7. Consistency.
 This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually, no one is perfect!) give them the love and support they need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as they are goes a long way to making them feel secure.

8.  Engagement
You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

9. Humor and Humility.
 These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain them, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.
 

10. Challenge.
 Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who work on each other to meet goals—in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits—are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.

11. Surprises.
Women love surprises. But surprise them according to your pocket.

12. Smell Good.
I do not joke with this. I can't, I won't. Please give me one reason why you should not use a deodorant? A body spray? A Perfume? You should have at least two out of these three I mentioned and also use them judiciously. For men, I will recommend sure or Gillette roll-on. Victoria secrets aren't bad too for a spray or you use malizia if you cannot afford the expensive ones. Not using any is a CRIME to WOMEN.

13. Dress Well.
You need not be over dressed for the occasion. At the same time, women love good and powerful dressers. Men with style, colour combination and fits to a man's body. Choose your attire according to your size and structure. If you can't dress well, ask a friend or your brother or sister whenever you are going out. If you are boxed up, hire someone.

14. Superman.
Be her Superman. Defend her in times of troubles and conflicts. Step up to the occasion. It doesn't mean you should fight. Always Be There.

15. Transparency.
Honesty is still the best policy. I keep on saying it, if I am looking at a long term relationship, why would I lie? I will prefer to be truthful so that I do not have to remember my lies. When you are honest, if she says what you said nine months back, it will be the same. Remember, women keep records better than men.

16. Baby.
I once had a girlfriend I named and called her Babyyyyyyyyy. That's how long her name was stored on my phone. Anytime I called her or she called, my response was always; hello babyyyyy. So you should try it and use the word baby. It worked for me, it lasted for four years. That word melts them. Not babe, I mean the real Baby. Babe and Baby are not the same.

17. Ask.
Ask and it shall be given. If you need something from her, or you want her to do something for you, ASK. Do not assume, try to ask if you want to know something.

18. Details.
Pay attention to her. Every single detail about her counts. It shows you care and you have her on your mind and at heart. It makes you so sweet.

19. Don't make her cry.
For whatever reason, do not make her CRY. If you do, I do not have remedy for it. Before a woman will cry on your matter, you cup is filled up. If not overflowing.

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